Valentine's Day is fast approaching, when more than one proposal will definitely happen. When we hear the word "proposal", most often our first association will be about a man in love presenting a ring to his beloved, but this time we want to talk about a different scenario and ask if and how a woman should propose to her beloved man?

The most important question - what is your motivation

Although we probably don't hear about this practice often in Latvia, there are many brave women in the world (and definitely in Latvia as well) who are the first to ask the question - "will you become my husband?" However, how do you come to such a decision and what is the main motivation for doing so?

Brides who have chosen this path, sharing their experiences on the Internet, most often admit that it is not as scary as it might seem. In fact, it is a bold, original and, yes, for many men, a very flattering move and decision. However, they point out that the most important thing is to understand your motivation. If a woman wants to propose only because she cannot wait for a proposal from her lover, then this is the most shallow motivation.

Proposing - regardless of whether it is done by a woman or a man, it should be done with only one desire, namely the awareness that I want to spend the rest of my life with this person.

Similarly, when you decide to propose to your beloved man, you should put aside all doubts and thoughts that other people will think about you. Yes, some may think that this is desperation, but those people who really know you and know what your relationship is like will also understand that your only motivation is to spend every day of the rest of your life with the one you love.

And most importantly, courage is needed in this decision also because you must completely and finally put aside thoughts and inner questions, if you would not propose to him, when and if he would have done it at all.

After all, if he says "Yes", then he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, which means that sooner or later he would have proposed himself.

Will your beloved man understand this move?

Of course, before you decide on this step, you should think carefully about what kind of person your beloved man is. You must already know the answer, whether such a move of yours would please him. If he is an adventurer, thinks more broadly than usual, doesn't stick to the seemingly traditional order so much - then go ahead, but if he has already indicated from the beginning of your relationship how important it is for him to take care of you, take responsibility and make decisions related to your family, then he could perceive such a move by you as a certain "suppression" of his personality and desires.

Watch with engraving instead of a ring

When all seemingly philosophical questions have been answered, we come to the question - how should courtship take place in practice? First, is it necessary to get down on one knee and should you present him with a ring? You may or may not fall on the road - it depends on what makes you feel comfortable. If another gesture would make you feel much better, then you can also do that, for example, write "will you be my husband" on a sticky note and pin it to the fridge. Who said it couldn't be done? You can also allow deviations in the matter of the ring - by presenting something else instead of the ring, for example a watch with an engraving.

Find the right words

However, the biggest question that brides-to-be ask themselves when deciding to propose to their beloved is what to say to him. Of course, there are no such right words, but realizing that he might find such a turn in your relationship definitely unusual and perhaps even strange, you should be able to explain to him why you have decided to take such a step.

Let him see why you love him so much, what his most beautiful character traits are, what you see in your future together, and finally don't forget to ask the most important question: "will you become my husband?".

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