Inside, deep in the subconscious, are hidden your feelings, needs, desires and goals you are aiming for.
The outside is what your appearance consists of - figure, face, hair, skin, lines and shape.
You consist of a combination of these two worlds and you are special and unique. / Signe Throne

Signe Trone is a specialist in harmonious visual image, a color consultant and a wide-profile hairdresser who offers every woman a journey of self-discovery. Signe's cherished beauty care center - a social enterprise - is in the process of being created, while already the master will help you find your beauty harmony both for everyday life and for the special status of the bride and the wedding day.

We are talking about what is really hidden under the beautiful harmony of the word combination and how big a role it actually plays.

Please tell us about your experience in the field of beauty care.

I have been working in beauty care for more than thirty years. I have been in my profession at almost all levels - both worked in a beauty salon, and conducted courses for professionals, and taught the profession to young people at school, developed training materials and programs for hairdressers. In recent years, I have been working as a self-employed person and I work more with the overall visual image of a woman. In the process of working with clients, we get to talk a lot about various life topics. My profession is actually very intimate, because a hairdresser, a stylist is very close, but at the same time a neutral person who can be entrusted with various happy and not so happy life events. It has happened that a client comes only to cut her hair, but stays for several hours, because something has happened in her life that should not be told to anyone, but her heart is full. So the client tells her pain while crying, and I listen because there is a need for psychological support. Listening to my clients, I see how often our women have low self-esteem. The man next to you plays a big role here. But the second - what we ourselves allow. We are the ones who set the boundaries. They should not be determined bravado and domineering, but smart and feminine. A woman should see herself as a value that is worth being the way she is, regardless of age or size, but no one has canceled taking care of herself and observing hygiene. You are beautiful as God created you, you just need to learn to understand your external gifts. You need to find out what your natural color range is, what your lines, shapes and proportions are. Of course, you can change something in your appearance if you want to, but what you can't, it's important to accept.

According to my conviction, I am a Christian, so I believe that every human being was created by God exactly as he is, with a special purpose. He is precious and beautiful!

Adding to my knowledge, I had the honor of meeting Baiba Bankovska, a woman with mobility impairments. Thus, I had the opportunity to get to know another side of life in which people with disabilities live. How much we don't understand, we pretend not to see, because we are afraid, because we don't understand, and how much it hurts people. If a woman experiences any physical problems, it does not mean that a woman stops being a woman, does not want to be loved and safe. My friend Baiba says that we all have wheelchairs, only who can see them and who can't. It appeals to me and fascinates me how beautiful these women can be on the inside and how much they are able to see their worth. A woman who has serious problems with physical movements and difficult practical everyday life can accept herself and see the value of why she is the way she is in this world and see the basic vision of the meaning of her life. This is fantastically motivating for any woman.

It is not unimportant to combine the external appearance with the inner world of a woman. You should think about what your needs, desires and life goals are.

If the external image is not aligned with your inner being, it is not viable and you do not feel comfortable in it.

How often in your experience is there a situation where the external image does not match the way a woman feels and how she wants to go through life?

I dare say that it is in most cases. Many do not try to go deeper, although a woman should be interested in it. Therefore, there are many different things - either a woman chooses to wear something because it is for a friend or because it is in fashion, and does not consider whether it shows her individuality and highlights her beauty. When women ask what to wear to an event, what to buy, I usually say, and this is really the main thing, - sit down, think, - you have to go to an event, there will be a specific environment and you will be a specific person in that environment. At the wedding, you can be a guest, relative, bridesmaid, mother of the bride or groom... How do you want to feel? Do you want to be noticeable and challenging, restrained and unnoticed? When you answer these questions, it is easy to answer - if I want to be bright, I should choose from the bright colors that suit me, maybe there will be a bigger neckline; if I want not to be noticed, I will choose calm pastel shades. After all, you create your outer image exactly the way you want it to be. You don't put on a bright dress because your girlfriend said you look cool, but when you go to an event, you don't know where to put yourself, because you're noticed, but you don't want to be noticed at that moment and you're uncomfortable.

It is not for nothing that we often hear women say I have nothing to wear , although there is a full closet. There is nothing to wear because the closet is full of things that are not really yours or are not compatible with each other.

What should you start with when creating a visual image?

When creating the visual image of a woman, we start with a psychological approach. I have to understand the person, the person has to understand why they want to do it. The work is extensive on both sides, time-consuming and financially intensive. I need to understand if this is really what I want. There are psychological conversations, tests through which the woman begins to analyze herself and gain a lot of knowledge. Everyday life - sports, work, recreation, friends, theater - what percentage of your life consists of these sections, and accordingly, what percentage of clothes in each of them is in your wardrobe.

And see how simple the tool is.

It's all simple. If you only buy dresses, then there is nothing to wear on a hike with children. When asked what age is my target customer, I say 18+ and there is no limit, and I would even say 16+. You can often observe how young girls, wanting to look beautiful, dress too provocatively, as a result of which they attract unwanted people and events. One of my dreams is to include self-awareness in the school curriculum for girls. This is fundamental knowledge that should be learned at a young age. This would help a woman to see herself as beautiful and accept herself as I am.

A woman should be guided by how she feels when choosing her clothes and hairstyle. But we have men, husbands, friends who have their own desires and vision. Where is the border, the compromise between myself and the vision of the beloved man?

There will be no unequivocal answer. Because here is a tree with two ends. If you are talking only about a woman, without a man next to you, to dress the way I want and feel good in it, you have to understand yourself. What I am, how I want to position myself to the world, or hide it. Maybe today I'm in an environment where I don't show who I am. You have to be in touch with your inner self. If we have met a man when we understand ourselves internally and express ourselves externally accordingly, there will be no problems. Because that's how he got to know you, that's how he likes you. It should be, but it doesn't always happen. If a man has a different point of view, and a woman agrees to it at some point, because she wants to please her man, going against herself, but there comes a time when she says - I am different, I have different taste. If a man respects himself and the woman and thinks along with the times, then he will accept it. On the other hand, from the woman's side, it would be correct in those moments when they go somewhere together, however, to try to dress in such a way that she looks beautiful for her man. It is mutual respect.

If a woman says she wants short hair, but won't cut it because her husband doesn't allow it - it's very sad. A compromise is certainly possible. What does it mean to an adult woman - her husband does not allow her? It's her hair and her feelings. It is an internal psychological process when you say - no, I want and I can.

You have to learn to accept yourself, we are all beautiful as we are. People often ask - do you have to love stretch marks? If we look deeper - what are stretch marks? What do they come from? Because the butt is growing. Why is it growing? Because you bring life. If you look at it this way, that your baby was born through stretch marks, then they are beautiful, even very beautiful.

You should love your imperfections as something special.

Yes, because it has a story underneath. No one cancels hygiene and self-care, but about the other things - they did not arise because you simply did not know about yourself

In connection with my clients, conversations, experiences, I thought for a long time how to fit everything I know into a bigger event with added value, which would bring deep value to women, to be able to help and transform life to the positive side. The idea of a beauty care center was born - a social enterprise, to have the opportunity to bring different people together in society

How will this social part manifest itself?

I see my company as a physical space, a center where a core team of professionals works - hairdresser, stylist, beautician, manicurist, psychologist with a broad vision, for example, with a coach's approach. All this can be complemented by aromatherapy, aurosoma. And specialists have been invited to whom customers can turn with questions, such as a nutritionist, physiotherapist and other specialists.

I would be happy if there is a person with a disability among my team of specialists, so that people can see that he works among us. It can also be an administrator or an accountant. It motivates.

But the center will offer not only beauty care services, but also support for both people with disabilities and socially marginalized people. Transformations, lectures, just being in a different environment with like-minded people. For example, for women after violence. If they have found themselves in a society that helps them, they have already begun the process of change. They are open to acquiring knowledge that would help them believe in themselves. Women who have been prostitutes and want to give up this lifestyle. Mothers of disabled children who do not have time for themselves. Beauty care is related to a woman's self-worth, and self-worth is related to her mood, attitude in the family, in the collective. All of this is actually deeply fundamental to the good of society.

If a woman comes to the transformation, will she integrate it into her life if she is not yet ready for it internally?

Definitely NOT! This is the reason why, in the first conversation with the client, I ask her to think about why she wants the transformation and whether she really needs it, or is she ready to devote the necessary time to this process. A woman can integrate into her everyday life only what she understands and accepts. It is important to me that the transformation is viable and that it happens not only externally, but also internally. this process is transformative, as a result of which the woman herself and the events around her change.

How do you prepare for the image of a bride?

The image of the bride is special, because every woman wants to be the most beautiful on her wedding day. In order to feel good and look beautiful, you have to think about what type of bride you want to be, what image would be related to you? Together we analyze the image of the bride and do all the preparations necessary for the successful implementation of the idea. It is also important to find out the groom's views and opinion about his desired image. The pair must be stylistically coordinated. If you need help with overall wedding styling, then I invite the young couple to think about the environment, mood, and style of the wedding. It is the day of the new couple and it is a special one that should be lived with pleasure. Therefore, you have to think about everything in time, so that the day is the fulfillment of cherished dreams. Therefore, relax on the morning of the wedding. Everything has to be done, but if something goes wrong, as it happens in life, there are guides, there are others who can help. today is your day to enjoy each other. A wedding day is for two, it is not a theater for others.

I definitely recommend working with a wedding stylist who will be able to put everything together in harmony, according to the chosen style. I also offer such a service myself. Unfortunately, it happens that the bride has figured out how she wants to look, but the groom looks completely different. Or - the bride is in a princess dress, but the celebration takes place in a guest house, where you have to wade through the hall. And if it still rains that day... It's beautiful when everything is in a uniform style. It doesn't have to be perfect, but there should be unity. It would be nice to inform the guests about the planned wedding and the stylistic approach, so that the guests can feel in accordance with the environment and the place.

Author of the article: IEVA KRASTIņA