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Your palm mail sends me letters.

I will read them all winter.

I will write you answers all winter.

The letter has the power of touch. Feelings guide the hand, and carefully considered and felt words land on the paper, followed by the addressee of the letter will touch - with his gaze, with his thought and hand. A letter is time and attention devoted to a specific person and only to him - almost as if you were standing in a room full of people, but watching alone to him. in this case, instead of viewing, a letter appears. Written glance, written touch, testimony of time, places, feelings - the act of creating a letter.

A letter, especially between loved ones, gives countless "genre" possibilities.

Of course, they can also overlap, but when writing a letter, you can also focus on one of them, for example write a letter as a confession, a letter as gratitude, a letter as a selection of memories, a letter as a reflection on an (upcoming) event, a letter as an opportunity to say what neither time, nor place, nor the right words have been found in conversations.

Letter as a confession

Everyday worries and running often push aside the feeling of having to tell the other the most important thing. There is no good time. Maybe later, maybe tomorrow. A letter by hand is a wonderful opportunity to do this: to sit down and focus on the feeling, how important it is that you are together, that you have found each other, met each other and that you continue to look for points of contact and get to know each other. Sometimes all you have to say is that I see and feel you, I am (and still want to be) the witness of your life.

Please be like that for my life too. Confess about the things you value the most in the closest person - even apparently simple, yet probably known and felt by you alone.

What special look, gesture when returning home from work or joint outings, what character trait? Who him makes for him? What makes you who you are? What has changed in you since you met him? There are people who change us to forever. Makes loving, lovable, richer inside, also fragile. More fragile because there is a fear of losing.

Letter as thanks

Gratitude is one of the most important and magical pillars of a relationship.

The word "thank you" makes us feel appreciated, needed. Our contribution and efforts have been noticed, understood. It's worth investing more. A letter can say a bigger and more unusual thank you. Not only because the products were bought for dinner or taking out the trash, although that's important, but also for just being. Be there when you need it most need Be there when you're down. That your presence and embrace renews me, regenerates me, gives me energy. Give thanks for the essential - for a common journey, sharing time and space, common values, conversations, silences, understanding, madness and peace.

Letter as remembrance

A letter is also a beautiful event and a way to capture and remember the beautiful moments we experienced together, adventures, dating, first dates, decisive moments (when I realized that this is real and serious), first trip together.

Maybe create a selection of personal events - it's nice if both do it in the form of a letter and then you can discuss and to compare which each of us thought were the most beautiful moments of life experienced together so far. Highlight the beautiful, make it more more valuable, enjoy longer and inspire each other to new, similarly valuable and uplifting events, find out what was important and enjoyable for the other person. Remember, record, don't let go so quickly in this rapid in the moment of life.

Letter as expected

Waiting for an event is sometimes as big a celebration as the event itself. Anxiety before. An inner storm. A letter is an opportunity share your anxiety, tell what you are afraid of and what you absolutely do not want to miss. Share thoughts and imagine the event: what you want it to be, what is important and why. To delve into the upcoming event and into yourself while waiting for it. In your emotions, changing moods, flight of imagination.

Which of these feelings do you want to keep and which - to let go? Maybe someone else can help? Maybe the other person doesn't know... Pulling words on paper - one after another, share your inner revelations, expectations. Open yourself to the other by creating your own the emotional self-portrait, the self-portrait of your waiting time.

Letter as the unsaid told

Silence is beautiful only if it does not last long. Telling is important. Sometimes we are very, very shy to say something important. A letter is an opportunity to express, to say, to find words for your longings, to put into words your feelings and also your doubts, give space and time to your thoughts. Open up. Hoping that the other person will guess can be long and futile. Paper and ink can serve as a bridge that will fix the unspoken, the unsaid, something that longs to escape. A handwritten letter is a gesture not to be forgotten. It is personal, complete and almost transcendental.

Silence is beautiful only when the most important thing has been said. Write! Allow yourself!

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I knew him

after silence,

after a while I knew him,

after approaching,

after the events between us,

after the undone button of the coat,

by my quickened pulse I knew him,

after eternal relocation

from place to place,

from place to person,

from man to himself,

I knew him by myself,

by open palms,

by the palms that made me forget

my eternal fists,

by the hands that taught

I know him

after silence.

Author of the article: INGA PIZĀNE

Photo: MIKS SCHELS