TV personality, as well as the host of weddings and other events Renārs Zeltiņš is convinced that conducting a wedding is not all the host's own show, but rather the ability to feel the specific couple, each wedding guest and the surrounding atmosphere in a nuanced way. He himself has been conducting weddings for two years and states that this job, just like everything else in this life, came to him casually and organically. During these two years, Renard has collected a number of important conclusions that will certainly help couples when choosing their wedding leader.
Do you still remember the feelings with which you led the first wedding?
The first experience of conducting a wedding was great. I believe that in life in general, in any field, the start and how you can present yourself is important. In my case, the very first wedding was offered to me by a well-known couple. This may have made the process easier, but the wedding in question was a big one, with many guests, so it required serious preparation from me. No one told me how to run a wedding, so I then and still choose and create a substantive basis for how I will do it. I don't like to be guided by a specific template, but for each couple to find their unique angle.
There is no one recipe for every wedding. Every wedding is different, and that's why it's so important to properly prepare for this duty.
You undoubtedly have a lot of experience performing in front of an audience. How is a wedding different from hosting other events?
If it is done with one hundred percent dedication and serious preparation, then I can definitely say that a wedding is the most difficult and challenging event to manage.
If everything is done with full dedication -
- welcoming guests;
- communication;
- welcoming the new couple;
- and leading the evening part up to the procession,
then the wedding leader's energy consumption at the end of the day is considerable. That's why I don't do weddings every other day, because I want the couples who hire me to feel special and get the best.
Speaking of couples who choose you - how would you describe them?
I would say that the couples I have officiated at weddings are very diverse. I have noticed that there is no specific type of people who want to see Renara Zeltina at their wedding. They can be both introverts and attractive people who like the style in which I communicate with their guests - energetic, cheerful and with a touch of humor.
The most important moment for me as a manager is the moment when we meet the couple for the first time - live communication is very important, and only then can you understand whether we will be "right" for each other.
We meet, we talk, we feel each other - this is important to me, because I don't want to lead a wedding just for the sake of pay. My task when leading a wedding is to be your own among strangers at the beginning, and to be your own among your own at the end of the evening. Perhaps one of my biggest trump cards is that I remember people's names very well, so by the end of the night I know Aunt Wally, Uncle Edwin, cousins and other guests.
In my opinion, this is the most important thing that a manager should know - to communicate outside of management. It's possible that sometimes people don't understand it, but I'm already leading the wedding in those moments when I don't seem to be leading, we understand each other and communicate even outside of the official management of the evening by simply talking, asking how the guests feel, laughing together, as a result, during the course of the evening, each guest has already individually acquired me as a new friend. In my opinion, one of the most important keywords in conducting a wedding is sincerity and humanity.
Manners are of great importance, and even if the host does not make immediate contact with the guests, any person will appreciate human cordiality and simplicity.
One of the questions that seems to be asked by almost every bride is what is and what is not included in the duties of a manager?
Every job has its own crust, and the crust of a wedding leader is that he is often considered also a wedding organizer, turning to him with questions to which he often has no answers. If there is no wedding organizer or person to coordinate practical matters, then it is inevitable that the wedding director will receive questions about where to put the vases with flowers, in which room who should sleep and where to find an extension cord. If the couple or the ushers have told me all this before, I have no problem showing everything and answering, but most often the problems arise when the wedding director does not know anything about these issues. The wedding day is not only beautiful, but also a stressful and stressful day, when people have a lot of different questions.
I won't be original, but it's a fact - a wedding director is NOT a wedding organizer.
Of course, if the wedding director is paid for technical matters, creative contribution, coordination, then these things must be discussed in advance, and the wedding director becomes the wedding producer/organizer/coordinator.
What do you think are the biggest challenges of managing a wedding?
I would say that I have an internal challenge at the beginning of every wedding. At a wedding, there are guests of different ages, with different senses of humor, moods and moods. And the manager has to find the right approach to each of these people. People should be allowed to do what they want regardless of what is written in the script. In my opinion, flexibility is very important in weddings - to let things happen and develop naturally. It's important to me that the guests feel good - I've always said that hosting a wedding is not my show.
I'm just a wedding host and this day should be all about the couple, their love and their guests.
It is very important for me - to feel that there is real love between the couple. I want to at least hope that the couples whose weddings I officiate will stay together forever. Of course, I can't influence it, but I can hope for it.
Gallery photo: LINDA LAUVA
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