And if today you said: "I love you..."

What do you do to make your partner feel special?
When was the last time you did something to make your loved one feel your love?
How serious are you about your long-term relationship?

While one of the couple, after twelve years of life together longs to go on a romantic date with his beloved as in the first years of the relationship, meanwhile, there are often situations where the other just laughs at the idea: "Why, we've been together for so long, everything is fine for us!" A wish for all, all couples: that you do not have to experience such a situation! Because what is more beautiful in a person's life than a couple's relationship! Even children, one of the most glorious, unconditionally loving and self-enriching human experiences, are the fruit of a couple's love. The starting point is a couple. Woman and man. A union born from the joining of two souls who want to be present to each other - to support, encourage, comfort, rejoice together, enjoy and share experiences!

A relationship is a jewel that should be treated delicately, with reverence, respect and honor. This should be taken care of so that over time the quality of the relationship does not degrade and wither like a flower that has not been watered, but instead becomes brighter, deeper and more valuable. And in the most beautiful result - they would materialize as role models for the generations to be inspired by and receive faith in the power of real love.

Go on dates, darlings!

Outside of our everyday jobs, hobbies, children, building houses and foreign missions, there is no greater gift and value than presence. Going on a date is the moment when you give each other this undivided attention and presence, spend time in a different environment, spoil yourself and your loved one in honor. A date is a ritual for maintaining a couple's relationship. A conscious, mature partner's choice to devote time and attention to the partner and the relationship. Being in a different environment, which always helps to see your partner a little bit from the outside rather than the daily grind, and often falling in love all over again with your spouse over and over again. So that the relationship does not suffer a crash, remember this: you are a couple . Two people who love and long to live in love, who chose to do it together. You are not just flatmates, mom, dad, delegating and completing household tasks, but a couple created on a romantic basis. Your dates can be a variety of things - an elegant dinner in a restaurant, a visit to the theater, a massage and SPA visit, a weekend trip, a dinner cooked for each other, an evening walk, a joint meditation or yoga class, a morning coffee where you don't look at your phones, don't rush, but spend time talking, smiling, caressing and looking at each other with warm eyes. The main thing is to be together, present, in love and respect.

Do you know that one of the tricks to fall in love with your partner all over again is to look into their "stranger's" eyes? Yes - take on the role of an observer from the outside! It's like you're seeing him for the first time. How sympathetic, gallant, attractive... How beautiful, radiant and feminine... And look how the people around you react to your partner in a restaurant, at a theater intermission or at a party...

People tend to fear that routine will creep in long-term relationships , lust will disappear, the partner will no longer be able to cause ants to run over the body. And it often does. But not because you've been together for a long time. No. This is not true. The reason for the loss of desire is lack of knowledge and lack of personal motivation. Yes, there are periods in a relationship where we don't feel the constant urge to make love with our partner, and that's normal. We could not even physically or emotionally endure such a saturated regime! But this state is not permanent. It's periodic, just like a reborn sexual attraction that visits you again and again, no matter how many years you've been together. Both falling in love and lust are factors that repeatedly blossom into long-term relationships as long as you are knowledgeable, respectful, truly loving, and motivated to be together. If you are the ones looking for depth and emotionally intimate intimacy .

For romantic relationships to exist, they need romance. Romance and lust cannot exist where we do not pay attention to them.

Different dates for the spark of passion

To activate and restore the spark in the relationship, we can use the knowledge obtained from scientific research! There are different types of happiness hormones: oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins and serotonin. Partners with high levels of the love hormone oxytocin are happier in their relationships and see their partner as attractive. The great news is that there are ways to increase these happy hormones!

Dopamine

Gives a feeling of reward, satisfaction and pleasure. It happens when we do something we like. When dopamine is lacking, there is a bad mood. Dopamine and serotonin play a key role in lust.

How to multiply it: sleep, sex, running, listening to music, quality food, meditation.

Couples date ideas:

• Party with dances or attending dance classes together - joint dance courses will also raise the level of endorphins and oxytocin;
• Preparing a meal together. Products such as avocado, soy, bananas, chicken help to increase dopamine;
• Joint walks in sunny weather;
• Joint meditation. How about the idea of ​​having regular meditation dates?

Endorphins

A natural pain reliever that is part of the brain's reward system; occurs in pleasant activities, creates well-being, improves mood and raises self-confidence.

How to multiply them: sex, laughter, dark chocolate, dancing, meditation, acupuncture, exercise.

Ideas for a couple date:

• Fun activities in the fresh air – hiking, cycling, boating, running;
• Watching a comedy or attending a comedian's show - an event where you can have a good laugh. Laughter releases endorphins, dopamine and serotonin.
• Make a shared dark chocolate dessert.

Oxytocin

Oxytocin is called the love hormone. It occurs when we are excited about our sexual partner or when we fall in love. Oxytocin is believed to play a role in the existence of erections and orgasms, but research is still underway. Oxytocin creates a feeling of trust and connection. It comes from touches, caresses, kisses, hugs.

How to multiply it: hugs, sex, love meditation, acupuncture, petting, massage, music and singing, yoga, giving.

Ideas for a couple date:

• An evening of intimate conversations with erotic and playful questions; touching, caressing;
• Mutual massage. You can create the feeling of visiting a SPA by setting the mood for the massage evening with music and the aromas of essential oils;
• Common loud singing;
• Hot or cold shower together, shared bath.

Serotonin

Serotonin acts as a mood stabilizer, responsible for the feeling of joy and happiness. It affects emotions, appetite and digestion. Together with dopamine, it plays the most important role in sexual desire.

How to increase it: physical activity, sunlight, food rich in probiotics and tryptophan - nuts, eggs, milk, soy, animal protein; gratitude, positive thoughts. Serotonin deficiency is associated with depression.

Ideas for a couple date:

• A joint walk in nature in fresh nature and sunlight;
• Setting up gratitude journals, devoting time together to filling in their individual gratitude journal every day;
• Brunch where you enjoy probiotic yogurt, nuts and eggs while spending time talking about topics that make you smile;
• Joint stretching. Movement promotes the release of all kinds of good hormones. Set the mood with relaxing music and candlelight for a romantic atmosphere.

Your relationship needs you!

Article author: Ieva Simanoviča