A wedding is a very beautiful and romantic event in life. It is the day when two people who love each other make a promise to be together and love each other for the rest of their lives. But let's be frank - the wedding as an event is more important for the bride, because she always dreamed that she would wear a white wedding dress and that this day would be the most beautiful in her life.

For the groom , the wedding is more often important than the fact that now his beloved is officially his wife. There are hardly any grooms who have spent their whole lives dreaming about how this day will go and what color suit they will wear when they walk down the aisle. Therefore, grooms often do not want to go into wedding planning issues and brides are offended. How to persuade the groom to participate in wedding planning, and is it even necessary? Let's try to clarify.

Girls, let's be honest. We absolutely do not care what tires your man buys for the car. You have no idea which tires are better and which are worse. And what's more, you don't even want to go into it. this information is redundant and unimportant to you. But that doesn't mean that the whole car is unimportant to you or that you don't want to drive it. They are two different things!

But now read the previous paragraph again and instead of "tyres" put, for example, "wedding decorations" and instead of "car" put "wedding" and apply it to the groom. Doesn't it remind you of anything? Now it becomes clear that if a person does not want to delve into the nuances, it does not mean that this whole area is unimportant to him. It's just that everyone has their own priorities, and this fact must be accepted at the beginning of life together, in order to avoid many disagreements later.

Do not take offense at the groom or try to manipulate his feelings. It won't make any sense and will only leave you with unpleasant memories of the wedding planning time and maybe even the wedding in general. The groom may have various reasons why he does not want to participate in the wedding planning. Therefore, in order to understand how to act more correctly, you must first find out the cause.

The most common cause

It is not interesting for the groom. And that's completely normal. The groom may not care what color napkins are on the table. He just doesn't understand the difference between orange and terracotta and why it's so important. The visual part of the wedding, however, is much more important for brides. However, this does not mean that nothing is important to the groom at the wedding, more often they simply do not think about it. I can say from experience that grooms are always more interested in the technical part of the wedding.

Top topics for grooms are musicians and alcohol.

Ask the groom if he has a vision of what music he wants or what cocktails he wants to see at the bar. If you don't have a bartender who provides alcohol himself, then you can entrust the purchase of alcohol to the groom. Talk to him about things he understands. It is possible that after some time the groom will open up in this way and tell himself what is important to him in the wedding. If the groom expresses any wishes and if they do not completely contradict your wishes, then respect them and try to fulfill them or find a compromise, because 90% of the wedding will be what the bride wants. Give the groom that 10% to make him feel important on the day too.

The second most common reason

The groom has no time. A large number of grooms see financing the wedding as their main wedding task. Therefore, in order to be able to fulfill the wishes of their bride, they start working more, do not want to deviate from their main task and endlessly discuss wedding planning. From this point of view, the groom also participates in wedding planning, just in a different way. I would advise not to disturb the groom and let him go about his main task in peace.

Also, he will have to participate at least minimally in the planning of the wedding - try on and buy a suit, sew it, learn the wedding dance, answer the evening host's questions. Let him handle at least these mandatory responsibilities, while you calmly deal with the rest of the wedding planning. If you need support in wedding planning, it is better to contact a wedding planner. He will not only listen to all your wishes, but will also be able to provide valuable comments and facilitate the entire wedding planning process so that you are left with only the most enjoyable wedding planning tasks.

Author of the article: Oksana Shpakova / Wedding Fairy

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