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ENEAGRAM IN RELATIONSHIPS: SEVENTH AND EIGHTH TYPES

One of the most powerful means of personal growth, the enneagram , is the personality typology , which divides nine personality types or nine faces of the soul. They are nine different ways of feeling, thinking and acting.

Let's get to know the seventh and eighth personality types of the Enneagram - the Enjoyer of Life and the Challenger!

Seventh Enneagram Type – Enjoyer of Life

Productive, creative, spontaneous and extroverted people. Has practicality. Sevens know how to see the big picture and them extremely likes to participate in the generation and planning of new ideas. They are actively ready to cling to everything that interests them excites, but as soon as the interest fades, those who enjoy this Life move on to the next project. Trying to avoid painful emotions, paying attention to more pleasant things.

Seventh-graders should work on discipline, learning not to throw around different projects, but to bring the work started to for the end. Otherwise, there is a risk of not developing any of your talents, instead of stealing here from one area, here from another. You have to learn to stop and limit yourself, as well as to listen and be aware of your inner feelings. The same goes for ability to listen to fellow human beings, truly listening to them, and not getting lost in your own thoughts.

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In relations with a representative of the seventh type

At the beginning of the relationship, the seventh type attracts with the ease of life, optimism, enthusiasm and passion for life. For the seventh like to fantasize, but these fantasies may seem more interesting to them than real life and the people around them. Difficulties in relationships arise when sevens are faced with experiences and pain - since they avoid them, the most difficult at a moment you can turn around and leave the relationship.

Eighth Enneagram Type – Challenger

Eights are honest, reliable and confident. They are so direct that they tend to be aggressive, have a desire to control. They does not hide his anger and does not want to obey other people's instructions. Eights do not like the weakness of other people. They does not give up and if he sees injustice against his own, he will fight tooth and nail to defend it.

As Eights do not want to see weakness in themselves, they must learn to be aware of their vulnerability. Be aware that there are opinions different and there is no such thing as one right "my" opinion - the opinions and ideas of others must be respected. Challengers must learn controlling your impulsiveness and explosiveness. Before acting quickly – know how to control your explosion, to think Compassion and empathy reside in everyone, you just have to find the courage to discover them in yourself. If eights learn empathy, communication with peers improves. Instead of a hot-headed reaction, one must learn the ability to judge objectively.

In relations with a representative of the eighth type

Eights perceive a partner as property from which sacrifice is expected. They are also ready to be selfless if they feel like it sure that the partner is "equal." Sometimes eighth men create a strong public image, but are below in relationships wife's slippers. At the beginning of a relationship, the eighth type attracts with energy, confidence and strength. Challengers love it lavishly showering the intended partner with romantic declarations of attention. In the later stages of the relationship for real the eighth's desire for partner control becomes the bane.