People are different, so are your wedding guests. We often hear stories about how difficult it is to organize a pre-wedding party when the bride's girlfriends don't understand each other, or how difficult it is to develop a seating plan for wedding guests if there are people among the guests that it is better not to sit at the same table. LĪGAVĀM explains what to do in such situations and what to do if wedding guests do not understand each other.

Don't take it personally!

When preparing for their wedding, brides worry about many different things - from the weather to how they will look in their wedding dress, but there is one thing they definitely don't want to worry about, namely, disagreements between their girlfriends. However, stories of brides have often been heard, which indicate that it is possible. There is a possibility that the bride's best friend will not get along with the newly acquired family member - the future husband's sister or many other scenarios.

What to do if all efforts to create mutual friendship (or at least respect) in them fail and, as the wedding day approaches, you have to feel not only joy about the upcoming event, but also sadness about mutual disagreements between close people?

Brides who have experienced this challenge, first and foremost, advise not to take any argument or conflict personally.

Even if the bride's girlfriends do not understand each other, this should not affect the bride's own attitude towards them. The bride must be sure why she has chosen these girls to be so close to her on the wedding day, and their own mutual dislike should not question this decision.

Don't take anyone's side!

Even though the drama is going on, it's important not to take sides. If girlfriends or wedding guests don't understand, that's their business and it doesn't necessarily mean that the new couple has to get involved, so the biggest mistake you could make is to support a particular opinion or position. Instead, it is better to remain neutral and try to reconcile both sides.

Know how to listen

The girlfriends of the bride most often also invest a lot of work, time and energy to create and organize the best pre-wedding party, help with the wedding, so the bride must also remember to be able to listen.

Although you should avoid conversations that result in one girlfriend talking and gossiping about another, you should not avoid hearing about the complications and the resulting feelings.

Appoint the responsible

When organizing a pre-wedding party, the bride's girlfriends also face many different challenges, which can definitely create an atmosphere of tension. So that girlfriends don't start fighting with each other , who is the main one, it would be good if the bride chooses a girl in advance to whom she entrusts the organization of her party. This could make girls respect each other instead of being jealous of each other.

The wedding leader should also be aware of the matter

If the problems and mutual conflicts become uncontrollable, the bride should talk to each of her girlfriends (it is best to do it separately) and explain that such situations are like a black drop of tar in the beautiful wedding preparations.

Perhaps you will be able to come to a solution together, which would be able to improve the relationship, if not completely.

This can also be done in cases where it is already known in advance that there will be people who do not understand each other among the wedding guests. Especially if it concerns close family members, such as parents who are divorced and no longer communicate with each other.

If through negotiations it is not possible to achieve that disagreements are left aside even for one day, then these people should definitely not be seated at the same table or involved in any joint activities on the wedding day. If so, then of course the wedding leader should also be informed about such situations.

Say “thank you”

But in the end – gratitude is able to melt even the hardest hearts, so arrange a nice surprise for your girlfriends or express gratitude to both parties in a conflict in your wedding speech. Perhaps this will be the path, if not to a peaceful settlement, then definitely to the understanding that this day is only about you and your love.

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