A wedding is coming up and a bachelorette party is to be held. Who will do it? How to guess what the bride wants? Needless to say, the key is in open communication, respect for wishes and opportunities.

Communication between the bride and girlfriends

If the bride's bachelorette party is approaching and she feels like she's on pins and needles - not knowing what to expect and fearing that she will have to be the center of attention, overcome some of her fears or otherwise challenge herself, then something has not been right in the communication between the bride and her girlfriends. A bachelorette party doesn't have to be one big event shrouded in mystery. Girlfriends can agree on the main thing with the bride, also without spoiling the surprise effect and without revealing the details.

It works well if the bride has one trusted person from her circle of friends, most often it is a bridesmaid. Caur viņu līgava var nodot savas vēlmes un sniegt apstiprinājumu par plānoto ballīti. It will give peace of mind to the bride and also make the planning process easier for her friends if the bride writes down what she does not want to experience at her bachelorette party . These can be both specific activities and indications of the type of party she would not like. Here, it is important for girlfriends to really take this list into account, and not to use it as a script for the event - let's specially make her do everything she doesn't want to, to make her challenge and overcome herself! It doesn't work like that, as a result you will only cause emotional trauma to the bride, ruin the day because she will be forced to do what she doesn't want to do, and she won't even be able to refuse because she doesn't want to hurt her girlfriends.

When the bride and her girlfriends have agreed on the type of party through negotiations or the mentioned list, practical expectations about the duration, saturation and, most importantly, costs of the party should also be agreed upon. Hen parties are not cheap, especially if you have to fill the whole day with entertainment. Wanting to give the bride the best, girlfriends often spend beyond their means.

The bride should realize that the party costs something and, taking into account the financial situation and opportunities of her friends, clearly inform her friends that she does not expect countless activities and exclusive experiences at the party, because the main thing is the time spent together. Even if everything is in order with the finances of the girlfriends, it is not obvious to ask each of them to spend several hundred euros on one hen party, so it is advisable to tell the bride that she does not expect excesses. This way, girlfriends will be freed from doubts about whether everything will be enough and whether the bride will be satisfied with a simpler party as well.

The fact that the bride's closest friends undertake to organize a bachelorette party is a sincere gesture and the essence of the event lies in good intentions. If you are true friends, then even a simple picnic by the sea without any additional activities will be the best bachelorette party and you won't feel that you are owed something and that the bride expected something more. If the bachelorette party becomes a chore and a burden, then perhaps the party concept has been chosen too complicated. Of course, organizing requires creativity, time and resources, but the process itself should be as pleasant as possible, because you are organizing a wonderful day and excellent relaxation for all involved.

Surprises, challenges and overcoming yourself - this is not always desirable

Before turning to more practical issues, usually the party concept, theme, central activities around which the course of the day will be formed are chosen first. There is an idea that a bachelorette party should be rowdy, extreme things should be done, tasks should be performed in public and have a good time. So that the next day there is exhaustion and you have to think about what you worked on the night before. Fortunately, this kind of party concept is slowly becoming a thing of the past and the hottest hen party trend of 2024 is creative and relaxing parties.

There should definitely be surprises at a bachelorette party, but they should be small and cute, not shockingly traumatic. Each of us has some fear that we would like to overcome, some of height, some of speed, some of starting a conversation with a stranger. Even if we want to overcome them, a bachelorette party is not always the most appropriate context. It is work on yourself and it should be done gradually and safely. Jumping with a rubber band at a bachelorette party is unlikely to overcome fear. Rather, it will be a traumatic experience that will leave you stressed for the whole day and your fear of heights will only increase.

Instead, it is much better to organize a creative and relaxing bachelorette party, during which you learn something new together, create something or just relax well and gain strength for the upcoming wedding celebration. A bachelorette party doesn't have to be exhausting and tiring, you don't have to remember crazy adventures and frolics from it. It can be remembered as a wonderful and inspiring time spent together. Dedicate this special day to calm, feminine adventures and use this time for deep and meaningful conversations.

The most common mistake: oversaturated day plan

Of course, you want the bachelorette party to be special and different from other girlfriends' get-togethers. That's why you want to plan a lot of things, but just like at a wedding, everything takes twice as much time at a bachelorette party. Even if you realistically plan time for various activities, it may happen that you are late somewhere - you want to take pictures, chat. Therefore, you should be very careful with activities scheduled at specific times, especially in the afternoon or evening, because it may happen that during the day the plan has already shifted and you have to delay the evening activities.

The most important advice is not to start the party too early, it can start in the afternoon as well. It's better to schedule some meaningful activities instead of running around all day. Also, it's always nice to let the day go. The afternoon of the hen party can be started with a creative activity, for example, a master class, followed by an evening in the open air, with a couple of planned things that can also be postponed if necessary, so that you do not have to follow a strict time plan. It is also important to coordinate the planned activities so that they create a kind of story and mood of the day.

For example, start with a flower arrangement master class, then have a photo session in the botanical garden, followed by a picnic with drinks cooled by ice cubes with flowers frozen in them. Things that are too unrelated, like a make-up master class, then a go-kart ride and oyster tasting make the day chaotic and do not create a story. Of course, there is nothing wrong with each of these activities individually, but a hen party will gain depth and meaning if it is permeated by a common mood and elements.

Not only the type of activities, but also the pace and intensity of the day should be matched to the bride. If the bride is an active soul of the company, then you can plan a dynamic bachelorette party with more activities for her. On the other hand, if the bride is a calm, sophisticated connoisseur, then take her to a restaurant, give her a glass of good wine and she will be happy! Girlfriends should also think about their well-being and comfort when organizing a bachelorette party. Of course, the main focus is on making the bride's day a pleasant and inspiring surprise, but it shouldn't be the case that in the background girlfriends are still solving and organizing something, or disappearing during the day to bring or settle something. The day should be planned in such a way that girlfriends can also fully enjoy the party together with the bride.

To make the day special, it is better to think about nice nuances in advance - uniform theme and dress code, special accessories and sweet gifts. You can prepare some personal games related to talking about certain topics or guessing the answers, which you can play when you want to. Focusing on such pre-prepared activities will reduce the feeling of having to rush and still have so much to do. Lead the day yourself, instead of rushing along with pre-arranged activities.

2024 news: relaxing hen parties

A great scenario for a modern and relevant hen party is going on vacation outside the city, which is complemented by some special recreation rituals or events. This way, both the bride and her girlfriends will be treated to a special experience, and it will also make the hen party planning process easier, since this event will be a big part of the party.

Dairy farm Berghof has prepared a two-day relaxation offer that includes both an invigorating bath in a country sauna and milk SPA rituals for beauty. While relaxing at the Piena Manor, enjoy a meal prepared from local products at the Rose Tavern, which will strengthen your body. Inquisitive brides will appreciate a visit to the Dairy Museum. But sporty brides will enjoy the active leisure facilities, such as tennis courts. A two-day vacation at Piena Manor will be an invigorating and unforgettable hen party experience - all you have to do is set aside two days to indulge in milk baths and the magic of fresh country air.

Currently, various practices that combine the spiritual and the physical are relevant, and why not include it in a bachelorette party? A bachelorette party, however, is an event where the bride receives the blessings and good wishes of her closest friends, so it is better to spend it in fulfilling and enriching activities. Get lost in the Pines On June 29, the Evening with Yoga and Gong will take place. The evening will start with slow flow yoga led by Signia Lindes, but will continue with Jolantas Zeltinas' gong meditation on the seashore. The event will also include informal moments for conversations, you can enjoy pine bud tea, and there will also be a musical surprise. After yoga and gong meditation, you can continue the evening with a sauna session and spend the night in one of the Pazust Priedēs cabins.

Bachelorette party costs

At the beginning of the article, we already mentioned that the bride should be aware of the financial situation of her friends and even if they can afford to host parties without problems, do not take it for granted that they should host a party with exclusive experiences. If the bride has said that she will be happy for the time spent together and does not expect unique surprises, then the girlfriends should take this into account and not think that the bride said it only out of politeness and in fact it is still necessary to spend as much as possible.

The day will not bring joy if the girlfriends have already spent their summer budget at the first bachelorette party of the summer. As many times in life, the amount of money spent is not always the most important thing. More important is the good intention, thoughtful and sweet details that may not cost anything, but will show that you put time and thought into it, rather than anonymously booking a table at an expensive restaurant.

Setting a specific and realistic budget will also make planning easier for girlfriends. If you know your budget ceiling, it will be easier to weed out what are priorities and what you can give up. Te arī svarīgi budžetā ierēķināt visus izdevumus, arī tos, kas nāks klāt laika gaitā vai pat tikai ballītes dienā. Otherwise, it may happen that the budget includes items to be paid in advance, but on the day of the party, payments still need to be made on the spot. Therefore, it is recommended to arrange everything as much as possible so that everything is paid in advance, it will also be much more delicate towards the bride and there will be no situations in which girlfriends pay something behind their back or share money.

Weigh your wishes and priorities, calculate the cost of different hen party scenarios. It may be more economical to rent a cabin near nature and spend a peaceful weekend there, lazily sunbathing and playing self-planned games, than to spend everything in a couple of hours on various special activities. Jūs vislabāk pazīstat viena otru un zināsiet, kas iepriecinās līgavu, attiecīgi arī realizējiet jums vēlamo ballītes scenāriju!

Author of the article: Renate Berga

Relaxing hen parties: Get lost in the Pines , Berghof dairy farm