If you have to define yourself, Artūrs Ćirps chooses to introduce himself as a light-sensitive person. Men. In close connection with himself and nature, Arthur reveals his world of feelings about the relationship between a woman and a man.

Evolution is not possible without relationships. Being without a relationship is like sitting alone in a cave in the woods. It takes both time to live in a cave and a lifestyle. But it is essential that relationships are necessary for human development. Sitting in a cave is like sitting at a stop, the train of life is moving forward. If there is no relationship, the question arises - why is nothing happening? It's often just scary to get on the train.

People who have gone through the experience of divorce, it was painful and never want to feel that way again, it's disappointing, I seem to be fine with myself. And so, while ten years have already passed. Many choose not to start a relationship because it hurts. However, the cool flavors of life lie in the world of our feelings. When we encounter resistance, an emotional situation, that is usually where the gift of growth lies.

One is to be physically together, and the other is to create and feel intimacy. Intimacy is not only sex . It is any interaction where there is a subtle, spiritual, open, sensitive, true essence, which for many is closed already in childhood through experiences, fears and traumas. Most of them are afraid of intimacy - of true tastes of happiness. That is why there are quarrels and rejection, resentment, hatred, which is simply a lack of love.

Family and familiality are rarely in the same house. Now is the time when all relationships are on the question mark, because it is difficult to continue in the old way. Truth pushes out the false and the false.

Nature and its traditions are the only thing not created by man. We see very well that development, flowering and expansion in nature is where there is fruitfulness. Nature - God - always favors fertility. What is fertility in a relationship? It is possible only between a woman and a man, where the process of creation and interaction is based on pure and true love of the heart.

One of the foundations of relationships is kindness, when we wish the other only good, when our every action with the outside world is saturated with goodness. The next aspect is acceptance. Are we able to accept the other as it is? Is there still a desire to adapt the other to your illusions and rosy expectations? Kindness and acceptance are essential expressions of unconditional love from the heart.

Just like Mother Nature does, accept everyone.

this age is about me being joyful, brave, fulfilled and happy as a man, and I don't need a woman as a resource to fill my gaps. That era is over. Each of us has everything - both the feminine and the masculine vector, but when we come to this earth, Nature gives us a certain expression of experience in the body. It would be healthy for each of us to get to know the two manifestations of energy in ourselves - the one that feels and creates impulses, and the one that goes and does. A woman can also go to work, earn money, build a house, but it is important to realize that she is a woman and never forget it. When a woman and a man meet each other, the man can finally let go of his feminine part and entrust it to her. The same goes for a woman - she sees the masculine aspect in a man and can let it go, and then the Cosmos is born together.

The role of man or woman given by Nature must be taken care of. Men need to learn to nurture their masculinity and indulge their feminine energy, creativity, tears and sensitivity, while at the same time being a gladiator with a sword when necessary. Where does it come from? If a man goes to the weight room and starts lifting weights or starts leading a dance, the testosterone level will rise and things will start to happen. Everything in our body is determined by hormones.

A woman and a man must come into union as two wholes. We become whole when we no longer need another person for security, or as a resource, or for pleasure, or just for sex. When two conscious, self-sufficient, joyful partners meet, then the relationship becomes a pleasure, where there is ease and freedom.

In order for life to be harmonious, you need to recognize three things in yourself - accepting love, wisdom - intelligence and the courage to do. This is fundamentally important for both women and men. People who seek spirituality, health, and happiness sometimes fail to understand that this is a natural state that does not need to be sought, that simply by aligning your physical body, hormones, and organ systems, everything happens by itself. You can't fool the divine code unless you start experimenting with DNA. Cleanliness of the physical body is the foundation of spirituality. Fix your physical body, exercise, breathe deeply, walk in nature, make good love and eat more fat. Roots are formed in the earth, not in the sky.

The true heart in love the other belongs to no one, is the ability to let go at any moment. If the relationship is based on security, affection, then it is not really love. We just call it love and lie to ourselves. We truly love when, when parting, we are able to wish the other a better partner than ourselves. When we are able to bravely accept that it is time for everyone to go their own way, and support it. Such relationships are rare these days.

There are people who go the path of a hermit, but I would still like to wish everyone to find fulfillment and joy in life, so that there is no existence of such a victim and a victim, because no one wants to be friends with such people. It is the task of everyone's own internal choice - to fulfill oneself, to do what one likes, not to lose one's freedom. If I am cheerful with myself, it will be cool with me too! It should be like a task - to be cool with myself, and if I meet someone, to be cool together.

When two such people meet, miracles happen.

As one of the manifestations of a conscious woman's health is an orgasm, which is a consequence of the harmonious interaction of an ordered body and mind. The fact that a woman should reach orgasm slowly is an outdated opinion. The process of intimacy itself becomes an extension of pleasure and consciousness. If a woman lets herself go, is connected to the earth, her mind is in order, both sexes should reach orgasm together, which is always beautiful.

Life becomes meaningful when a person answers important questions: Who am I? What do I like? what do i want Am I happy? The secret of a happy person is to find his creative expression, to find his fulfillment and vector of uniqueness. At some point, a person realizes that the mentality that has been formed so far is not even mine - it does not allow to live a fulfilled life, but to look at everything through the prism of fear. It is created by the environment, school, society, parents so that we grow up to be obedient consumers of the system. Who am I really? Are my values ​​the same as programmed?

Is the world really as it was shown to me? Am I able to let go of everything old? We often want the new to come into our lives, but we don't let go of the old. But we have been together for 15 years. But we have children. I'm afraid to leave work because it's safe there. The indicator is our body - if it is sick, then life requires change.

I recommend to couples - do five minutes, talk. Sit down at the table for five minutes and tell each other how you feel. For yourself, for others, for children, for everything else. Without waiting for an answer. It will be enough to devote time to it at least once a week and tell everything that has accumulated during this week. When you tell the other person that you want to be hugged before sleep, but it was difficult for you to ask, the other person will say that they are waiting for you to ask. Thus, by talking things out, it may turn out that none of the ten problems exist.

Asking questions is very healthy. Ask each other: Are you happy? are you happy How can I help you to make your eyes sparkle? Give you time alone?

Mutual support and acceptance is important. It is a pleasure for a man to be able to take care of a woman, but it would be equally important for a woman to become self-sufficient where she needs the support of her partner. Why? Because a woman needs to feel safe. Life is unpredictable. If one day a woman realizes that she wants to go further, to have the opportunity to realize it. It is a very common situation nowadays, that a woman cannot leave a man for ten years, because she has no money and security, and in the end she still has to undergo gynecological surgery. When the teeth have been gritted for years! Ask the other person more: What do you like, what makes you happy? Tell me and I will help you. I will support you.

A man needs to leave his house to his cave, garage, lake. If a woman reminds her man from time to time that he should go to his austerities, then he will always be attracted to this woman. Listen, man, where are your friends? Why don't you go fishing?

Intimacy and sexual relations are the foundation for a couple. I recommend couples to go dancing. In dances, the man gives the impulse, leads, plans, the woman indulges. Dance and you will understand whether you are compatible or not. Dancing is a kind of spiritual practice where energy is moved on all levels. It's a great tool to get to know each other better and hone in.

All that is in the elders is in you. When you accept your parents, you accept yourself. While the parents are alive, the relationship needs to be fixed. When I hit the tractor and realized that I was going to die (Arthur has had a serious car accident. aut.), I thought - I should call my mother, because I haven't arranged everything that I wanted to arrange. Fix your relationship today because things happen in life.

Everyone needs to awaken their inner gladiator, and that's in each of us. The inner beast is needed to be able to say stop. So that we can feel calm and free in any environment, so that we can look into the other's eyes and express what we have to say, say stop. Develop your inner monster so far that your peace is everywhere. You don't run away from an argument, from a problem, from anything. This is what a woman should see in her man. That there is a gladiator in him who will not run away from any problem.

Unconditional love is a beautiful, rare phenomenon. I believe that true, pure, valuable coexistence is possible without demand, without parasitism. Together is just good - that's a lot. You can be true with the other, no need to pretend. People are just tired of being who they are not.

The couple has to go through a test before the wedding. I would recommend going for a hike. No phones, no smart devices. Good couples therapy can be experienced in the forest. You can always go to the forest for answers. When the couple goes to the forest where they have to be silent, they start to notice the other person in a different way. In the forest, a woman will see how a man can take responsibility.

People break up because they don't have a similar vision of the world. Therefore, it is important to get to know each other's vision before the wedding. If the vision is different, then think about how it can be smoothed out, work on it. One of the cool ways to get to know yourself is for each of the couple to make a vision board, including their skills, abilities, talents; what I like, what I don't like, what food tastes like, how I take care of my body, what I want in a relationship, when the baby is due, how we would raise children.

How to understand if you are right for each other? There must be common values, hobbies and outlook on life. If people sleep separately in their own beds and have nothing in common, then why are you together? Being together should be joyful.

Author of the article: Ieva Krastiņa

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