It is undoubtedly a great honor to be invited to be ushers in the wedding of close people. However, this honor also brings with it certain duties and responsibilities. Today, with many couples choosing to hire a wedding planner, the role of ushers is changing, but there are still responsibilities on the wedding day that only ushers can take on. According to the conductors themselves, often the role of conductors is primarily associated with duty, work, planning, responsibility, which, of course, is not a lie, but the most important thing is to realize that conductors are something much more than a verb.
Agree on the role of ushers at the wedding
Communication is important in any relationship. That's why - the couple always needs to talk with the drivers
- about what both parties expect from each other;
- should also agree on the responsibility of the presenters - will the presenters be wedding organizers who do everything from A-Z, or will they be involved only partially and the couple themselves will participate intensively in the organizing process;
- such questions must be answered, who will be the leaders of the wedding - ushers or a separately engaged person?
Līga Klismeta, who has already taken on the honor of hostess at several weddings, states that she has always taken it with great responsibility.
"Despite the desire to be a bridesmaid, I was always aware that I would only say "yes" to the closest people, because I believe that a wedding is not a formality, but people, things, details should be real.
The ushers must also be one of the most important people in the life of the young couple, with whom they sincerely want not only to stand by the moment of the signing, but also to meet many years later," says Līga.
It is important to know all the wishes of the new couple
Leaders should find out not only what the couple likes, but also what they don't like. All the information obtained will become the basis for the pre-wedding to-do list and help create the scenario of the wedding day. Getting to know the couple and their preferences is one of the biggest must haves in the wedding planning process. It must be remembered that it is first of all their day, and only then - the realization of the personal wishes of the presenters. If the ushers like and enjoy various Latvian wedding traditions, but the new wife might think putting the aube on her head is unnecessary, then in the end you will not have fulfilled your task.
Līga also agrees with this: "Speaking of the wedding process itself from the part of the presenters, I can say that the most important thing is to identify the list of unwanted things for the new couple and only then start all the planning work. Here, this is another important argument for the fact that the ushers should be close, because they know the young couple well and will be able to plan engaging activities for them to make them happy from the bottom of their hearts. Even if only a ceremony is planned on the wedding day, it is important that the new couple should not have people standing next to them just for a tick, but presenters/witnesses for whom this day is also important and special," Līga is convinced.
The biggest challenges of presenters
The League calls time and planning the biggest challenges for presenters. Time - not only on the day of the wedding, but also in the planning process, especially a few days before the wedding, because it is in the last moments that many obligations arise - both known in advance and unexpected. That's why it's important to learn how to plan your time so that you don't have to run to a 24-hour copy center to print wedding newspapers on the eve of the wedding.
"I think conductors need to be able to let go of the desire to 'go according to plan'.
Sometimes it is difficult to accept that the planned table on a sunny day, on the seashore, can suddenly turn into champagne in a restaurant or in a forest under umbrellas, however, one must be aware that the weather and everything unplanned are sometimes even more beautiful than what is previously put on paper. The weather is one of the points that can change plans, however, you can always prepare options A and B, and if the new couple is open to everything, even a rainy photo session can turn into a fun adventure at the end," Līga assured.
Need to find the right activities and details
Whatever the role of ushers in the wedding, it is clear that the wedding planning will take place in cooperation with the couple.
That is why joint trips to the place of celebration and marriage ceremony, wedding salons should be planned in advance. It is customary that after the ceremony the young couple together with the ushers disappear from the sight of the guests. This is the moment when presenters can make a photo session full of surprises. Many also use this time for romantic lunches.
It would be important for drivers to travel the planned route in advance to assess how time-consuming it is. "In order to make each couple's wedding day their own day, the presenters also have the task of finding the right activities and details that make this day different from others, to put a part in the special and unique thing that connects the specific couple.
It is sometimes very difficult to maintain this creative flight within yourself, because you have already seen and heard so much, but you still want to find something of your own. In my opinion, something new can be created by combining it with the existing one, especially in the mixing part, where the classics play perfectly with the present. With each wedding season, so many sources of inspiration appear from which ideas can be drawn, but if you interpret a little according to your own taste and that of the new couple, in the end something new and beautiful emerges again," Līga observed.
Task of presenters - introduction of guests
Wedding guests do not always know each other, so the role of the hosts is to stimulate a good-natured atmosphere that encourages conversations, toasts and involvement in activities. Ushers assume such responsibilities at weddings where there is no host of the evening.
If the wedding is led by a professional, then the task of the ushers is to open the evening with a speech, light the candles and honor the parents.
"Often, the big challenge of the wedding day is the activity or passivity of the wedding guests, which must always be taken into account, because we are all different and our interests are different. When planning the tasks in which the wedding guests are involved, it is very important not to put pressure and forcefully drag the wedding guests into games or games, but to let them choose for themselves - to participate or enjoy the evening watching from the sidelines. If the wedding has this part of the celebration, then you must agree in advance with the new couple about the format of the evening, because the new couple knows their guests best and will definitely know how active they are and what type of evening format will be best. But even if it seems that only introductions and dancing will be enough, it is important for the presenters to come up with at least three activities for the guests, so that there is an opportunity to organize them when there is a little relaxation," advises Līga.
Let the new pair not discharge, but charge
However, the most important task of the presenters is to allow the young couple to spend the day carefree, feel special, be happy and think only about the person who is next to them.
Under no circumstances should it be allowed that:
- the bride has to worry on her wedding day about whether the rings have been delivered to the master of ceremonies;
- do all the wedding guests have a way to get to the place of celebration;
- are they not bored while the young couple has gone on a short trip with the drivers, etc.
"I would like to advise future presenters not to employ the young couple in such a way that they are already exhausted when the celebration cake is cut.
Find a wedding recipe that makes the day full, interesting, beautiful and enjoyable. Let the young couple not discharge themselves on their wedding day, but recharge for a new, beautiful beginning. Respect the capabilities and wishes of the new couple and do not try to implement all your ideas, because this is not your wedding day, but the wedding day of your closest people, so, first of all, do everything so that the young couple is happy," advises Līga.
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