If you are a bride and have already started preparing for the wedding on your own or at least researching the topic of wedding planning, there is a high probability that you are already getting scared by the amount of information and the list of things to do. A wedding is a serious event that happens only once in a lifetime, so planning it cannot be sloppy.

Perhaps you have already thought that you do not want to deal with all these million things and take on such responsibility, but it is better to entrust it to the wedding organizer. However, if you have never encountered wedding planning and the work of a wedding organizer, it is quite difficult to imagine what exactly an organizer does and how exactly he makes life easier for the bride. I offer to compare what is the difference between planning a wedding independently and organizing a wedding together with a wedding organizer, looking at specific situations and real examples.

Choice of wedding specialists

Independently: You are looking for information about wedding specialists, read reviews, try to compare prices. You do not know if this particular person can be trusted, if he is a professional, or if there will be no unexpected surprises. You book specialists, but until the last moment you are not sure if it is the right choice.

With the organizer: The organizer offers you only verified wedding specialists, whose work quality he takes responsibility for. You don't have to think about what to ask the host of the evening or the administrator of the venue, the wedding organizer will find out all the necessary information.

Searching for a venue

On your own: You need to independently research the offers of celebration venues and assess whether they are suitable for your wedding. Then conduct a price survey of potential locations and calculate approximate costs. Going to see the celebration places, but there will be even more difficulties here - you don't know what questions to ask the celebration place, what to pay attention to, and you don't know how they actually work.

With the organizer: The organizer will offer suitable options for celebration venues and their prices for your wedding. Together with the organizer, you will go to see the celebration places that you liked. All organizational and technical issues will be clarified by the organizer.

Communication with wedding specialists

Independently: You have 15-20 chats with various wedding specialists. Some you have corresponded with in e-mail, some on Instagram or WhatsApp, and others both here and there, so when you need to look at what you have discussed, you must first find the right place where you discussed it.

You should regularly communicate with all your wedding specialists, because the work of one specialist depends on another, so you must constantly clarify the details, as well as inform the wedding specialists about the latest changes.

With the organizer: You have one chat with your wedding organizer and if you have any questions or clarifications related to any issue, you should only write to the organizer. The organizer will answer all your questions and take care of solving technical issues with wedding specialists and timely transfer of information to all parties involved.

Wedding documentation

Independently: You try to write down all the details about the wedding, but some details are left out because they seemed to be unimportant. When you need to find this information, you will need to go through the entire list to find what you need. Due to the lack of experience, you do not understand what and how to write down, who will need to show it, and there is no understanding of what needs to be recorded in writing.

With the organizer: All wedding documentation is maintained by the wedding organizer, constantly updating it, and it is available to you online in one place at any time.

10 days before the wedding

Independently: You understand that the wedding is generally planned, but there are still so many details that need to be thought about, discussed, bought, etc. Galvenais, paspēt to izdarīt līdz kāzām. There is a strong anxiety about whether you have forgotten something important.

With the organizer: We have completely organized your wedding. Now is the time for you to get rid of thoughts about the wedding, go to the SPA, go on a last date as a bride and groom or have fun with friends. All questions that arise for wedding specialists right before the wedding are resolved by the organizer.

The day before the wedding

Independently: The whole day goes by, calling and corresponding with all the wedding specialists, because it must be clarified that everyone knows where and when they should be, what needs to be done and what must be brought with them. We still need to take out the rented inventory for the wedding (and if there are several rental places, then it will take a few more hours), and we need to take all the necessary things to the place of celebration.

At the place of celebration, you should discuss all the details again with the administrator of the place of celebration to be sure that the provider of this service has really understood everything as you wish, because in the morning you will not be able to control it. The feeling that you have forgotten something does not go away until the last moment.

With the organizer: There is a little pleasant excitement, because tomorrow is the most important and beautiful day in your life. You pack your things according to the list made by the organizer and go with your best friend to the hotel where you will wake up on the morning of your wedding. Then you head to the SPA and a wonderful dinner to fully enjoy your pre-wedding day.

Wedding morning

Independently: You wake up in the morning because the decorator, who has come to the party, calls you. You explain to the decorator which entrance you have to go to, where to get the key from the party room, and ask him to send pictures so you know what's going on there and not to worry. But it doesn't help, you still worry and can't relax because you are constantly calling, writing and you have to control everything.

With the organizer: You wake up in a wonderful mood, you don't have to worry about anything. The hairdressers and make-up artists make you messy, the photographer and videographer capture the most beautiful moments of the morning, and you look forward to meeting the groom.

Wedding day

Independently: Events are happening very quickly and you don't manage to notice anything around you. You have to be able to take photos, talk with guests, and solve any questions with wedding specialists. You always check with one eye whether everything is done. Sometimes you remember that your now-husband is next to you and you should also smile and kiss.

With the organizer: You can't even believe that this day is exactly as perfect as you imagined it to be. Everything around is so beautiful, fabulous, and this is really the most beautiful day of your life. You are enjoying this day - you and your loved one became husband and wife among the people closest to you.

The morning after the wedding

Independently: The wedding has been celebrated, now you have to settle with all the specialists you haven't settled with yet, and return all the rental items that were rented for the wedding. It will take half a day until all the belongings are taken away.

With the organizer: You wake up after your wedding with a smile. The wedding day was perfect. Now it will be a perfect morning - you will have a delicious breakfast and start opening your wedding gifts. What can be better than gifts!

Overall impression of the wedding

Independently: In general, the wedding was a success, the guests liked it. But now you realized that you haven't rested and enjoyed the day at all. You controlled everything that was happening around you so that everyone liked and succeeded, but you forgot the main thing - that you like this day. Now you understand why an organizer was needed, but it's too late.

With the organizer: It has been the best day of your life. You became husband and wife. On this day, you were surrounded by your dearest and closest people, you have enjoyed the time you spent with them, and of course you are proud, because all the guests have told you that it was the best wedding they have ever been to. And such a wedding has been successful thanks to your joint work with the organizer.

As a wedding organizer, it is important for me to become your girlfriend (at least for the time being), so that you relax, trust me completely and tell me everything and how you want. Weddings are a celebration and I want you to enjoy the process, and I won't hide that planning a wedding gives me great satisfaction too, because what can be better than working with happy, loving people!

Author of the article: Oksana Shpakova / Wedding fairy

Photo: Joel & Justyna, Abby Sattersfield Photo