Unless you plan to celebrate the wedding as a couple or together with ushers, then there will definitely be guests - your families members, relatives, friends and colleagues, respectively, people. And like people, each of us has different needs habits, various character traits. In the same way, there can be different situations at a wedding. It turns out that some of them are possible prevent, as long as you discuss these issues with your guests before the wedding.

In the end, what are the uncomfortable questions that must be answered?

Can I not invite first degree relatives?

One of the most difficult tasks of any wedding is drawing up the guest list. It turns out not always so easy understand which people to invite to this special event and which not to. This question becomes particularly uncomfortable when you can't decide whether to invite a seemingly close relative, such as sisters, brothers, cousins etc. In situations where one of the couple cannot decide whether or not to invite a specific relative, the wedding organizer Cindy Wilde / BORDO suggests asking the person out for lunch or coffee and talking. It tends to be that, for example, the bride has not had any relationship with her father for a long time - in such cases Cindy advises not to feel guilty if you have decided not to invite him to the wedding. “It's your special day and on this day you should be with people who make you feel good about who you trust.

You shouldn't think and feel bad about what others will think if you don't invite a certain person.

If you feel that you should meet with this person before the wedding and explain the reasons for your choice, then do so." suggests Cindy.

Where to be during the wedding ceremony?

Pastors and leaders of wedding ceremonies often point out that just like seating guests at the celebration tables, so too the location of guests during the ceremony should not be left to chance. If the ceremony takes place, for example, in a church, then guests with small children would still be advised to be closer to the exit door, so that if necessary, the crying the infant could be soothed by going outside. If small children will be in the first rows, it is not excluded that during the ceremony they could also run out onto the stage or at the altar. There are pastors who point out that this can change the atmosphere of the event, and it can be difficult to get back into the desired mood afterwards.

Who will be wearing what?

If the bride has planned a wedding morning party with her friends, then she should remember to think not only about I dressed myself, but I also have to talk to my friends about what they will wear. Make-up artists should also be reminded that the morning will be captured in photos and videos, even though they arrive decently dressed. Wedding organizer Inga Berziņa / bannté indicates that it is not you should also be ashamed to talk to the leader of wedding ceremonies about appropriate clothing, so that it fits into the overall mood. Likewise the issue of clothing should also be discussed with the bride's girlfriends, reminding that

on this day, the main role is reserved for the bride, so if you plan to wear a white dress, it is better to leave it to someone else for the event.

Wedding organizer and manager Andrejs Veselovs advises couples to ask guests for a change of shoes, especially if the event takes place in the summer and outside the city. That being said, high heels have their time and place.

Where will who sleep?

If it is planned to hold a two-day wedding, wedding organizer Inga Bērziņa recommends discussing the issue of sleeping with the guests. If it is expected that the guests will have to sleep in the same room, then this should be told to them in advance. "It is not acceptable for everyone sleeping in the same room with other people, so it should be known before the wedding so that the guest has a chance to think about driving home at night or booking a hotel nearby," says Inga.

Follow the instructions given in the invitation

Inga Bērziņa also says that it will not hurt to remind the guests to follow the instructions given in the invitation. "There is it is important that the guests respect the times specified in the invitations, so that a situation does not arise when the bride and groom have to wait for the start of the ceremony because a guest has not yet arrived. On the other hand, at the venue of the celebration, it is a bit troublesome if the guests thinks you might arrive earlier than the specified time, because it makes everyone nervous - both the decorators and the caterers and others would get involved, because no one wants the guests to see the technical side of the celebration," says Inga.

Similarly, if the invitation emphasizes not to give cut flowers, then it is worth reminding once more that the guests really come without flowers, because very often they are a burden to the young couple.

It may happen that the guest house does not have vases to put them in the water or the decorators have not warned that they should to provide Wedding organizer and leader Andrejs Veselovs states that the couple's request for a wedding should also be respected not to use your smart devices and not to take photos or videos during the ceremony. Better to leave it to the professionals. On the other hand, the wedding organizer Dagnija Libane / Sparkling also recommends that the couple indicate and remind their guests in the invitations where to park cars at the ceremony and/or celebration site. "It is, of course, a matter of taste, but in photographs it will look much better if there are no cars of different colors in the background," says Dagnia.

No – to unorganized bride stealing!

If you are not sure whether your wedding guests will try to play off any of the traditions, then Inga Bērziņa recommends to potential to remind bride stealers that unorganized bride stealing can end very badly, often even with injuries. “People drink too much, and stealing a bride seems like a mission to them, no matter what means," says Inga. Speaking about excessive alcohol consumption, Dagnia Libane recommends choosing a bartender for the wedding, who could also control the guests alcohol consumption. "If there are bottles of alcohol on the table, it will be more likely that the guests will pass out faster," observed by Dagnia.

Everyone, not only the guests, must be full

According to Inga, another one of the uncomfortable issues is staff catering. "It seems very obvious to everyone that there is to provide food for musicians, even if they are the last to arrive at the festival, but it does not seem normal, to provide catering for the decorator, who has already started work the night before and leaves the guest house shortly before the celebration," says Inga.

Author of the article: LIENE PÄLĆA

Photo: CLYDE TROUSERS

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