Many different stories have been heard about leaders of wedding ceremonies. If, when getting married in a church, you can usually choose the priest, then the situation is different in the registry offices. It may happen that its employee perfectly matches the personalities of both of you, and the wedding ceremony turns out to be warm, bright and joyful, but it may also happen that the employee of the registry office quotes lines of poetry that do not match the specific event or creates a gloomy mood in such a happy event. But those couples who have planned a special and personal marriage ceremony, but do not want to get married either in a church or in a registry office, increasingly choose a symbolic wedding ceremony led by a professional wedding director. It is true, however, that it should be remembered that such marriage ceremonies in Latvia most often have symbolic, not legal, significance.

Tragicomic experience in the registry office

Until recently, I was looking at my friend's beautiful wedding pictures on the Internet and reading the descriptions written on them. She wrote:

"Possibly the most horrible correspondence where you feel guilty for showing up in a wedding dress and smiling... It made the day one to remember! Thanks to the registry office for showing that lifestyle is nothing for a sloppy whale ," Zane wrote.

It's true, everything is fine for this couple with a sense of humor, therefore, when answering the question, what really happened, Zane answered that it was nothing special, apart from the fact that the writer in an indifferent voice read the obligatory part of the LR legislation in the office, forbade the photographer to enter, because it was not a ceremony, and expressed his displeasure with the couple's smiling faces and clumsy jokes.

For those couples who want to completely avoid such situations, an excellent alternative would be to contact the registry office in advance, but choose a professional wedding ceremony leader on the wedding day itself

– they are most often leaders of weddings and other social events, actors or a close person from their own family and friends. In Latvia, in addition to pastors and civil registry offices, wedding ceremonies (although symbolic, of course) are also conducted by actors, for example:

• Ģirts Scabbard,

• Gints Anjan,

both various improvisation theater actors and professional wedding leaders, for example:

• Andrejs Veselovs,

• Valdis Melderis,

• Renārs Zeltiņš

and other more or less well-known people in society.

Souls coach Inin Nini also offers to lead a different kind of marriage. She points out that you can lead different marriages, intimacy ceremonies, truly cutting into the divine feminine and masculine, affirming love and asking for strength for it. "It means to affirm love in a different way, not within a specific tradition, but with the ordination of a school of mysticism.

Because I believe and know that all roads lead to one. And the times have come when only one main knowledge - love - shines crystal clear.

I will gladly and with deep feeling help the couple both prepare for marriage and conduct it. I will gladly support those who want and feel the need for a deeper confirmation, but do not feel attached to any specific denomination, are ready to boldly and freely follow their own, special path," said Inin Nini .

Marriage registration – legal act

Wedding manager Andrejs Veselovs states that there is a certain procedure for marriage registration in Latvia. Everything happens according to the scenario that is written in the legislation, which is understandable, because marriage registration, first of all,

1. is a legal act. "It is for this reason that we can end up in a situation where what you saw and heard at your friends' weddings will also be at yours.
2. You can't ask an employee of the civil registry department to change something or introduce some lyrical deviations "per friend", this is not part of his job duties," says Andrejs.
3. It should also be understood that civil registry office employees are not professional actors and do not lead weddings in their everyday life, so you may succeed if someone has oratorical skills, but someone may not. "If a couple turns to a professional manager, whose job is to give people joy and pleasant emotions, then they can not only wait, but are guaranteed to receive personal treatment and attention for the young couple. In this case, it is possible to meet again with the manager, to discuss all the details and wishes, which will certainly be taken into account.
4. Also, the couple can add their vows to the scenario, choose the language of conducting the ceremony, the musical accompaniment and other nuances," admits Andrejs. He points out that cases are also practiced when another person conducts the ceremony, but an employee of the civil registry office is nearby to get involved at the most responsible moment (question with the word yes). Andrejs calls it a perfect option for those couples who want to combine everything at the same time.

In the wedding ceremony, five percent should be reserved for humor

Manager of weddings and other events Renārs Zeltiņš this summer for the first time also conducted a wedding ceremony. He points out that this is a particularly responsible task that requires preparation. "It was a fantastic experience. The couple had already married a year ago and celebrated this day with their loved ones this year. It was a big responsibility for me and, despite the experience, I was worried inside how it would be. But I have understood -

if you put all the accents correctly, then everyone's inner world and emotions will be hurt, especially the young couple's.

You have to find the right quotes, thoughts, feelings, and then put it together organically. The couple also said their own vows. I was very happy to experience it with them. Although people associate me more with humor, I still believe that only five percent of the wedding ceremony should be reserved for humor, the other 95 should be filled with emotions, love, and sincerity. This is not the time to joke around and be a clown. It is a moment that requires mental seriousness," said Renārs Zeltiņš.

Wedding leaders : LĪGAVĀM.LV