In so many romantic movies we have seen how for a wedding day approaching, the bride realizes that liked another , or loves another , not her groom. The wedding is called off , and she throws herself into the arms of another. Sounds dramatic. Is something like that possible also in real life? There is both. Relationships and marriage are complex mechanisms, but most often we choose to look for a partner, to continue life together. A wedding is a responsible step, so it makes you evaluate all spheres of life. That's when it changes perspective and gain new insights. Doubts and insecurities can also creep in and confuse us.

LĪGAVĀM collected valuable tips on what to do if you like another before the wedding .

Evaluate feelings

Realizing that you like someone else can be emotionally difficult, especially if the wedding is planned very soon. Shouldn't panic, but carefully evaluate your feelings for your future husband. Think about what led you to the decision to get married? Or the main reason is feelings and love , or something else? probably you are afraid of commitments, so you look for reasons to avoid them.

Looking for help

If there is not much time, it is best to entrust your feelings to a professional and seek help. A psychologist, psychotherapist or a competent trusted person will be useful here. An outsider will make you look at the situation in a different way, which can help in solving it. Successfully finding the causes of feelings, a lot you will be better able to evaluate whether it is necessary to cancel the wedding .

Set criteria

Not everyone marries for love. In many cultures, weddings and marriages have different meanings. If there is no basis for your wedding either love, it's no wonder that someone else found a place in his heart. In that case, it is important to evaluate what you expect from marriage. Set criteria that will help you understand what value this union will bring to your life.

Spend time talking

Remember that you are not alone, because a relationship is made by two. Your man deserves an explanation and a chance, that's why don't close yourself off and look for reasons not to come to the wedding. Leaving someone at the altar is much scarier than cancelling last minute wedding. Talking to your partner is important in any situation. It can help you organize your thoughts and accept decision. He may not be sure about your union either.

Leaving is hard, but it's better to do it before than after the wedding.

Take it as a test

It is known that a person can feel love for several people at the same time, but often a choice must be made. It is said that in such in situations, the second should be chosen - if there was a great union with the first, feelings for the second would not have arisen, but this is not the case unequivocally. Perhaps this is a test that helps to understand whether marriage and the person you are going to marry are suitable for you.

Avoid the drama

If you have feelings or are sexually attracted to another , analyze the feeling seriousness. It may not have anything to do with the object of desire, but indicates insecurity about one's own relationships and partners.

Cancel the wedding

If your feelings for another person have become stronger or if you happen to get involved in an affair, consider whether or not you should cancel the wedding ceremony. A marriage built on fraud or lies rarely lasts long.

Don't ignore what's going on

Fear is paralyzing.

They do not allow us to think clearly, create a feeling of helplessness. Because of this, people choose to remain silent, ignoring what is happening. There must be a reason why you liked someone else before the wedding. When solving the situation, you will understand how to act - go to altar or not.

Author of the article: ELISA RUDZİTE

Photo: NINA GORSHUNOVA, KELLY JURY

Visual content artist: KSENIJA BELCA-BESLER

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