In the pre-wedding period, it is common to hear about v hen and stag parties , however, what other activities would be worth planning in order to step into married life strong in spirit and accompanied by the power of the family ? Relatively little is said about events to be planned with mother , sisters, grandmothers, in other words, with family code carriers. This will not only give you the necessary strength of spirit and confidence on the day of the marriage itself, but especially afterwards. How to plan an unforgettable day with your beloved family women and what rituals can be performed?

Why are women born?

It must be said right away, grooms can plan identical events with their fathers, grandfathers, brothers and godfathers. The brides, on the other hand, invite their cousins. Yes, when conducting such rituals, of course, we draw inspiration from ancient traditions, both those that come from our latitudes and those borrowed from thirty-nine lands. Our thoughts take shape, they materialize. Days or weeks before the wedding, sit down and respectfully take the time to thank your family for everything that has been and receive a blessing for what is to come.

If we are lucky and can join hands with more than one generation, it is a blessing and strength, but also if one of the women of the family is no longer with us in person, there is no need to be sad. There is living memory and living thoughts, so presence can also be felt. In this way, we feed that invisible thread, the thought form, to which we turn so often without even realizing it and will call for advice in the future.

The connection with the family gives a woman that intuition, that subtlety when we cannot explain from where and how, but we simply know that in one situation we should act this way, and in another - the other way around. As with delicate creations, in order for them to work, they must not be overlooked, they must be given due time and attention.

1. Let's go in nature

Female energy is earth. An element so close and understandable to Latvians. It is fertility, strength, it is our roots both literally and figuratively. A hike or a picnic with the women of the family, picking berries or mushrooms in the forest, weaving wreaths in the meadow, sauna tying a broom - there are no limits to imagination. If one of the women in the family has passed away, visiting a resting place together is also an event that should be planned. We thus honor the succession, the continuation in each other.

2. Let's go to the sauna

At any time of the year. In late spring and summer, brush brooms from fresh branches: flowering holly, lilacs, jasmines. If you are a bride, kneel down and wash your mother's or grandmother's feet, ask for a blessing for yourself. Many girls in saunas feel several generations. As if they come with good road names.

3. We write letters of thanks

Especially valuable if, for some reason, a live conflict has arisen. Remember that these are the conditions, emotions and expectations of this life, nothing else. If you can't be there, write a letter. Write out the pain, but end with gratitude. Thank you for being me. You can store the letters in a beautiful envelope or burn them together by biting into the flame to strengthen your bond.

4. We comb hair and braid

In ancient times, little girls' hair was braided in a single braid that fell right down the spine. It was considered a collection of life energy that always strengthened and protected the wearer. No matter what cut you choose for your wedding day, have a trusted family member comb your hair before the big event.

Ask it to be mom, sister or grandma. Maybe a godmother. So that they think good thoughts while combing or braiding. We can put so many intentions into one braid. The three strands can be Laima, Dēkla and Mara, can be the past, present, future, can be our already realized achievements, plans and dreams, can be the family strand, the personal, own, individuality strand and the new family strand, so that there is always a balance between serving your family, yourself and your new family.

"I turned off the light myself so that we could only watch the street lights. My fingers slowly let go of the braided hair, and I let it fall. I didn't hurry to comb, I didn't hurry to arrange. I wanted to put my hands on my head and watch them slide. We sat opposite the Northern Daughter on the stairs of the generations. In the space between forgiveness and blessing, the hands were held in front like a child We weeded out the scum of the ages. We were born and unborn. I looked at the stars on my lap."

(Fragment from the book "Code of the Northern Daughter")

5. Donation to the family

Do not be confused by the word "donation". It is rather a gift. In many religious and spiritual traditions, this action is so self-evident, so true (in many, of course, not anymore, but we learn from good examples). With such gifts, we maintain the exchange of energy, materialize our intention. In the store, however, each product has its own price. We get what we want by changing like this.

You don't need to put the lamb on the altar, it's different times, but the commitment will be valuable.

If you are close to a religious tradition, commit to praying a certain number of days, which will be dedicated specifically to the family, if it is a spiritual practice, devote yourself to meditation. Don't waste the race, after all, it doesn't matter as much as the fact that committing to it will be a conscious gift of your time. You can give up something, fast, for example, but then also with love and gratitude.

Taking step after step towards your chosen one, you will feel how the family supports, rejoices, blesses the new path.

Author of the article: KRISTINE KUTUZOVA