In my previous article about my pregnancy experience, I mentioned that my husband has always been a great support to me, and his support deserves a separate story .

I want to share the inspiration that care, love and respect give in moments when the other person needs a lot of support. And to tell a little of my life about a person who, in the long run, hand in hand with me, is the creator of a common path.

I remember when we were both standing in front of the altar in the church, the moment before we said the word "I do" to each other, Oskars raised the veil that gently covered my face, and I looked into his eyes... I looked into it from all of myself, from the very depths and essence in the mirror of his soul - so clear, so real that the surrounding sounds stopped and I felt completely our united strength .

We then said the word "Yes" to each other, swearing to God, - so justified and important to both of us. In this both of us so much is contained in the word expressed. All our experience of being together, sharing life story and individual experiences, thoughts, conversations, feelings. Our world and beliefs, faith and love. Also with the most delicious treats, what other times you want only for yourself and, of course, for the little ones... For life's hardships and endlessly grateful moments of happiness.

With the given oath and loud agreement that we will be together forever, we decided on the other's existence in our lives. Beings who are a daily support and voice, a warm refuge and an endless adventure . Here is also the road which let's go further. Our love - our feeling became much more.

We had a baby - God's gift

I had already felt the strong support of my loved one in my heart, going about my daily routine. I believe that I am very lucky to meet and love Oscar . We have spent several years together in which we are like tree against tree leaned and grew together. Our flourishing leaves are common, doubly plump thanks to the fact that always, when there are strong gusts of wind or too hot sun from the outside world, we, supporting each other, can keep growing and don't give up. This is a collaboration where we reveal to each other what we are, continuing to learn life, grow and change.

I felt and observed his support most strongly during the waiting period and when the baby was born. As a woman, I do not live imagining that a man should not see me unkempt or in sorrow. During the waiting period, in the first months, I was extremely exhausted. If a person does not satisfy his basic needs day after day, the feeling of happiness is far away. But to me the feeling of happiness as a daily ration was created by Oskars, being there with listening and patient list “ What is needed, to make me feel somewhat good” performance. No, it's not the "man under the shoe" who does something, but a person who realizes that happiness lies in seemingly small things, but on the other hand, these things are extremely important.

Every night when I went to bed, I couldn't sleep…

He came tired after work, other times he didn't eat dinner at all, he was here - at my place. Like a little child tales told and haunted me until I fell asleep , and for a while after he felt sure that I sleep tight. He took my pain every day, just like a healer. When I experienced cravings because I couldn't eat whatever I wanted, he went to fulfill one of them without a word of objection.

His confidence is the other person's happiness - if I feel happy, he is confident in his ability to help the other person. We other times we tend to say to each other: "You know? - I'm happy" or the opposite also happens: "Oskar, Ieva... I feel unhappy /s”. And we know that it is within the power of each of us to intervene in this situation. Making others happy also results confidence in oneself that one can empathize, one can help a person and provide what is needed. This ability also makes himself happy.

And right now the real fulfillment of happiness for me is that I can repay him with my peace, confidence and care , because I have been properly supported in a situation when it was difficult to take care of myself.

He didn't leave me alone even when he wasn't around

Wrote a letter or gave a message about what to expect today. It was his careful attention and conversations with me that saved me in situations when I felt completely weak.

In my opinion, it is essential that the person with whom you choose to share your life is completely open to himself and also to you. With "fully exposed" I mean both in the spiritual realm and the physical. It is essential to tell the other what we want, what is ours will, our thoughts in a particular situation. We cannot guess the other's desires, whims and emotions out of the blue air leak. It is given the language and communication skills to be able to convey the necessary information. That it is very important to be able to support each other. Unspoken words remain in our energy. Therefore, I think there is it is important to express emotions. Also for men who are taught not to do it, because then there is an idea that he is weak. In our opinion, you have to say what's on your heart, you have to talk about what sometimes seems uncomfortable. We, every human being, should talk more with each other. Not just talking, but talking openly about how we feel, what we think, what we want, and how

And why I mention pregnancy. Because I felt the power of these open conversations the most during pregnancy. Open communication allowed us to understand each other even more in a completely new situation that we had never experienced before. And listening each other's fatigue, pain, listening to whims and sudden whims or long-hidden longings for something, uttering them - we were able to re-create the overall feeling of this time. And communication allows you to learn to live alone with the other, grow together.

As I say: "I am "I" and "You", and together there is a separate "We". "We" are our relationships that must be nurtured and should be brought up just like a newborn child."

He was present at the birth, - in them the truth of a woman is revealed . Nudity is the truth from a child only our mom and dad know about birth. And later our partner. A woman's nakedness is her truth. Her experiences, pains, instincts – things that are revealed when she gives birth.

A person loves a person if he can see himself in the other and even more. The body is one, but the soul is a reflection of love. So also we see each other as love . Not as a human with its inherent bodily characteristics.

We are each other's mirror. And truly, if you love, you want to see the other person happy, which means - happy too yourself. And here we reflect, because there is no happiness that can be bought or given as a gift. Happiness is in action, happiness is in feeling, happiness is in a person and it appears when we are able to adapt to the other - we are the other's mast and sails!

Author of the article: IEVA FLORENCE-VİKSNE

Photo: ELÍNA UPMANE , ROBERTS АBOLTIņŠ

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