There are many different roles in the world. The role of a bride, the role of a mother, the role of a wife. And remember that the last one is as important as the others. Recently, there has been more and more talk about marriage, the roles of wife and husband, which is important to nurture and remind yourself of. The hashtag #bringbackdating has been circulating on social networks for some time now.

The role of a wife is as important as the role of a mother

The initiator of the #Bringbackdating initiative is Katrīna Puriņa-Liberte, who together with her husband has inspired more than one couple to return to the dating period. Katrína admits that she was inspired by what she saw - the role of a mother is more popularized on the Internet, but very little is said about the role of a wife. The internet is about how to build a relationship, but much less about how to promote the role of the wife and also the husband in the marriage.

"Working with pregnant women and new mothers, I notice that mothers increasingly lose their role as mothers, thereby losing the essence of a wife. It is undeniable that being a mother and also a father is time-consuming and sometimes couples realize that they have not been together for a year.

It's not so easy for a family with children to find time for dates, but I think it's important to remember that a husband and wife are first and foremost not parents, but lovers, spouses," admits Katrína. She points out that she and her husband try to spend at least an hour a week, which is a lot in the busy everyday life of modern people. Regular dates have already become a positive habit in the marriage of Katrína and Artur.

“We call it healthy relationship hygiene – spending time with each other. We plan dates both consciously and also use those evenings when there is unplanned time for just the two of us.

We always try to remind ourselves that marriage is work that should not be taken for granted," said Katrína.

Pastor Krists Kalniņš, speaking about marriage, also points out that weekly dates help restore the intimacy of love. "When my wife Linda and I started marriage courses, we had been married for 15 years, and it was a not-so-pleasant revelation for us too, that if we take away the topics of conversation related to children, work, family life, there is nothing left to talk about. It sounds terrible - it feels a bit like a first date when you have to prepare topics to discuss. Now, of course, we appreciate how special this time is for dating," admits Krists Kalniņš.

The most important thing is the time spent together

Date ideas when in a relationship can be very different. From the classics - romantic dinners, cinema, theater and concert visits to active recreation. A date can also be held at home, for example, by organizing a board game tournament just for two. Also, various joint activities, such as dance lessons, will bring you closer together, which will also add time discipline to being together - going to a lesson once a week.

The most important thing in the dating process will not be what you choose to do, but that you choose to spend time alone. This is also recognized by Anna Rozīte and Gints Feders, who are currently enjoying their engagement period. Anna and Gints also support the #bringbackdating initiative and go on regular dates.

"I think there is nothing more important and precious to give to another than your time and undivided attention, because it is the only gift that cannot be taken back or given.

Presence and quality time spent, in my opinion, are like air, sun and water for any relationship, because they too require care and die from indifference and isolation. And when the period of rose-colored glasses ends and the couple faces real life, real relationships, so many roles that each of us has to experience on a daily basis, it is very easy to lose ourselves and each other and forget that the family starts from the two of you, from the time you devote to the other and nothing is taken for granted. Everything valuable requires investment and attention," Anna is convinced.

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