There are difficult moments in everyone's life, and the support of loved ones plays a key role in such periods. If your partner is going through a challenging period, it is important for you to be there and help. Below I will describe what to do and what not to do in such moments.

Daina Einberg

Be understanding

You can ask your partner what happened, how the partner feels and if you can help in any way. If your partner is not ready to talk about it, try to feel the other's emotions. Often we begin to blame ourselves for how our partner feels, but this will definitely not help to solve the situation, but can only make it more complicated. So just accept that your partner has to go through this period to learn something in life. And every person wants to be understood and accepted even in moments of joy.

Listen to your partner without judging

Sometimes the best way to provide support is to simply listen. When the partner does not want to talk, we often list a whole drama series in our head with thousands of options, how we (the saviors of everything) can solve everything. However, in such situations, the partner may not need our advice and solutions at all. Listen to your partner without your "I know everything" stamp!

Be patient

Time is often the best medicine. The partner himself understands very well that it is not good at the moment, that the situation should be resolved sooner, that the period is also difficult for the other person, the family, etc. You don't need to remind the other person about it all the time with your body language. Do not demand immediate changes. Patience can go a long way in helping others overcome difficulties. Let your partner feel that you are ready to wait.

Offers help in solving problems, but does not insist

When the partner wants to discuss his problems, offers his help in finding solutions. Difficulties can be more easily overcome by working together. But do not insist on the implementation of your solutions. The partner has every right to listen to different advice and choose a solution that is not yours. And it will not be a stone in your garden, it will not mean that you are doing something wrong, it will simply be a free choice of a person to do as he thinks is more appropriate at the moment. Even if it is not the right solution.

Create a positive environment

Try to maintain a positive atmosphere at home. This can include cooking your partner's favorite meal, watching your favorite movie together, keeping as quiet as possible when your partner is at home, if that's important to them. Remember that we all have such periods in life. They pass!

I invite you to pay attention to yourself

Encourage your partner to engage in physical activities, take care of themselves and find joy in the little things. This will help improve his overall well-being. When there are some challenges in life, we tend to write off the whole life, not just that, for example, there is a big gap in finances right now. At such moments, one must be able to show the partner that all other areas of his life are his stability and support at the moment.

Be a partner's ally

Show that you are on the same side of the barricades. If there is a wall of disagreement or resentment between the partners, they often unconsciously want him to feel what it's like now, in order to learn. But in such moments you have to put your ego aside and understand how together you can overcome difficulties.

Strengthen the emotional bond between you

Express your love. Take care from the heart. Sometimes just words and a hug can make a huge difference. Love your partner even more at that moment. If there is no way to show it, then send this energy of love through prayers, meditations, simply in thoughts.

Understand the type of support your partner needs

It is important to remember that each person is unique and approaches to support may vary. Active communication and a willingness to listen will help you better understand how you can be the most useful to your partner in a given situation. It is also safe to ask your partner: "What should I do and not do with you now?" Yes, it takes courage! But often this step also resolves other disagreements.

Support yourself

And the final advice, which is actually one of the most important, is - you need to know very well how to support yourself in such moments. When a partner is in trouble, we often become co-dependent on pain, suffering, anger and other negativity, thus also gnawing at ourselves. But you have to be the most stable partner in such moments, so take special care of your well-being, moments of joy, rest and everything you need to be happy! First, for yourself. And, of course, also for the other.

And remember that everything in life is in balance - after darkness always comes light. Any challenges in our life are catalysts for our growth.

Author of the article: Daina Einberga

Coach-therapist with 17 years of practical experience in coaching, therapy, training

Pavadone, which leads people to a happier, healthier, richer and more conscious life

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www.einberga.com