Falling in love makes you want to hurry! To meet more often, to feel more, to touch the skin of your loved one more and more, and more... Fantasize about the joint future and pack your suitcase as soon as possible to be together every day. Love hormones kick in, a sweet pink haze fills the mind, and it's all beautiful. However, for the long term, slow love plays in favor - the time we spend to get to know the beloved and discover whether you share common values ​​and a similar vision of life style and future goals.

For a modern person, when absolutely everything happens quickly - the availability of information, good and bad news that replace each other by the hour, the beginnings and ends of projects, dating opportunities in applications and social networks, quick decision-making and reflection, the search for something better - building relationships slowly and wisely can seem old-fashioned, unnecessary, even painful. However, this approach saves you from unnecessary heartaches and disappointments, which mostly happen in fast and hot-blooded relationships. Strong attraction and passion do not immediately equate to love. From the feeling "he is my real one, I feel it here and now" long-term feelings and interest can develop and develop, but it can also not develop and suffocate in passion. Because time passes and it is revealed that there is nothing else behind the strong lust. That was all. And this is the moment when it becomes sad and lonely. Disappointment. Resentment. As you know, being lonely in a relationship is much sadder than being alone, but not lonely.

In a long-term relationship, soul connection, emotional closeness is much more valuable than passion. Lust will also arise when you get to know a person and discover their fantastic qualities one by one. The more subtly you get to know and open up, and give room to open up to the other, the closer you become. In such a relationship, passion is inevitable, which is infinitely beautiful. The opposite is much rarer - passion disappears, reality sets in, in which no emotional connection has been established.

Slow love promotes emotional intimacy , allowing partners to really get to know each other before making major decisions. It also helps to have a clear mind in evaluating long-term compatibility.

Research shows that relationships that develop gradually tend to be stronger and more enduring. When partners give themselves time to get to know each other, the emotional bond deepens and lasting trust is formed. Slower relationships often lead to higher levels of satisfaction because they are based on thoughtful decisions rather than impulsive passion.

Important – Rushing your relationship too much can lead to ignoring red flags in your relationship. It is not that they are not noticed. More often - they try to hide from themselves, not to take it for granted, because they don't want to believe. Everything is too beautiful, the wave of falling in love has taken over the emotions, the mind, the body, so that there is no desire to stop this euphoria.

The benefits of slow love

By gradually developing the relationship, partners have more time to get to know each other. They share experiences, solve challenges together and talk openly without making hasty decisions. It helps create a deep and lasting emotional connection. Partners get to know each other in different life situations. In happiness, everyone is positive, open and kind. But how does your newly-acquainted partner react in a stressful situation, in danger? In a situation when you get sick or have challenges at work? Appreciating a partner requires the skill of observation. And it takes time for you to survive different situations. How much we know about the partner at the initial stage of the relationship, and, by the way, about ourselves, because we also need to get to know ourselves in this union, can be illustrated with an iceberg - only the tip is visible.

Again, trust and true trust are not formed overnight. Gradual, leisurely development of the relationship allows both partners to feel safe, creating an environment full of honesty and mutual respect .

In the rush to get into a relationship, people often make impulsive decisions about cohabitation , marriage or other commitments. A slower pace allows for thoughtful decisions that are aligned with long-term goals.

Why taking your time in a relationship can help you avoid heartbreak

In the initial stage of falling in love, we do not know the true nature of the person we love, even if we think we do. The early stages of a relationship are a dizzying time filled with love hormones that prevent you from looking at a person with a realistic view that is closer to the truth. Nature has arranged it with the intention - so that we can fall in love. If we immediately become aware of the aspects that actually do not suit us and do not like or make us cautious in this union, falling in love would not happen either.

Decisions made during the falling in love phase are really judged through the prism of rose-colored glasses. This is not a banality, but a reality, which in the early stages of a relationship one wants to deny as complete nonsense. "Beliefs" created by hormones are very powerful. That is why, if we have not given time to really get to know each other, to see in different life situations, to learn values, to see reactions outside of everyday challenges, disappointment very often happens. On the other hand, by allowing the relationship to develop longer, more calmly, more leisurely, we give space for this true process of getting to know each other. Also, real, lasting love is born slowly and leisurely - when you see the beautiful in your partner.

However - not always everything works according to the laws of "reason". And that's what makes life beautiful - sometimes weddings after five weeks of acquaintance develop into deep lifelong love.

How not to rush and indulge in slow relationships?

• Communicate openly about your expectations and your intention to take your time. If you want to develop the relationship slowly, clearly express this desire to your partner from the very beginning. If you feel that you are being pressured, this is a red flag. A mature person who is interested in a serious long-term relationship will realize that wanting to get to know each other is a smart decision and does not necessarily mean that you are not interested.
• Strong relationships are often based on friendship. Take time to get to know each other's values, interests, and personalities before rushing into a romantic commitment.

• Slow love does not mean avoiding physical intimacy altogether, but rather setting conscious boundaries. Give yourself time to build emotional intimacy before rushing into a physical or long-term commitment.
• Enjoy the process. Love is not a competition. Instead of focusing on the next step, appreciate the present moments with your partner. Let the relationship develop at its natural pace.

Author of the article: Ieva Simanovića