Who hasn't thought about meeting their destiny man or woman? Needless to say - that's when real life happens! But real life is all the time. And in fact, every romantic partner we have is destined for us.

Yes, of course, fatal in another sense, but undoubtedly in an important one. Each person with whom we are in a relationship opens up a new, essential facet in us - either in the form of learning or in the order of understanding things, or simply in training to be in communication, be able to stand together, listen and hear the other, learn to express our needs, learn to thank, learn to appreciate. We can practice all this in any romantic or non-romantic relationship. Therefore, everything matters and everyone has a role in our lives.

Every minute we become a little different. There is a term divine timing, or guided by higher forces, a certain time that is most suitable for us to meet the much-desired great love. However much we may want it in the past, it may not be desirable at the moment when we really, really want it, because we are simply not ready. And if you met too soon, you would easily lose. But that's not what we're after, is it?

Multiple Fatalities?

What we want is to meet our soul mate with whom we can be in a truly close and deep relationship. It is often a misconception that each of us has only one such - so close and fatal - person. Not so dramatic though. This may seem a little sad at first, but when you think about it, it becomes clear that it is the opposite! Each of us has several soul mates, really close people with whom we can pair up. Which of them we encounter depends on what road we build ourselves, in what direction we decide to develop. Accordingly, potential lovers are attracted to the energy we radiate. In turn, among other things, we determine the choices, whether it suits us or not. If it works - great! But if it doesn't work, we look at what it is about us that attracts a certain type of partner. Or the next step - we look at why we open our space to a certain type or relationship model.

There are a couple of beliefs that tend to make people unhappy:

1. is only one close soul with whom we can form a truly deep relationship, and from this comes the idea that
2. if we have met a soulmate and the relationship has not worked out, there is no second chance.

But neither one nor the other idea is true! As mentioned, there are several soul mates to fall in love with. We can meet only one in our lifetime, get married and live happily, but we can also meet several, because not all close souls have to stay in a relationship for life. It may be that this person is only meant for time - you meet to support each other, to show something, to develop in yourself. It may also be that you are close, the attraction hits a high wave, but in the long run, the values ​​do not match, without which long-term togetherness is impossible. You can simply choose not to be with him because for whatever reason that is not the best way to go. It may just not match.

We each develop at our own pace. If you have spent a couple of years or even months together in a fantastically romantic and fulfilling time, even wanted to create a life together , even then one of you may come to the conclusion that this is not what you are looking for, because you have changed, grown in a different direction. And that's completely normal. We don't have to stay with someone just because that person is very close to us spiritually. Common values, however, determine more to make a long-term stay together meaningful and happy.

The different timelines

From the soulful aspect, there are countless timelines or variations of how to live your life. You "jump" through these variations countless times during one lifetime, because you change, change direction, make choices. So is your potential partner. This means that in one of the time lines you can meet one partner who will be suitable for you, and in another - another. Therefore, the future cannot be predicted - since we realize that we have free will, we create the future ourselves by choosing the scenario of our life. Unless we decide to be conscious and not play the role of victim.

Why do women tend to "fall" for toxic, deep relationships with disinterested men? Because they haven't learned to love themselves, at the same time they are looking to fill this lack of love from the outside. At a subconscious level, it is a lack of self-worth and a search for external confirmation that reinforces this worthlessness, which is actually self-inflicted. There is no worthless person. We assign roles to ourselves and believe in them. Also on a soulful level, toxic relationships are like a mirror to see things within yourself to work with. As long as you don't love yourself, be ready for the remains of love, be ready to compromise, lower yourself, please. What happens when you fall in love with yourself? You would rather choose to be single and happy, in a respectful relationship with yourself, than to let someone into your life who can only give you leftovers. If you love yourself, you will not accept what is less than what you can give yourself.

Spiritual understanding – seeing a soulmate in everyone

There are several stages of understanding love. In the first, a person expects that love will be given by external circumstances, by a loved one. Full of Hollywood and lubes with such stories. In the second stage, a person understands that he himself radiates love and, accordingly, attracts a loving person. In the third - that he himself is the energy of love, and everything is one: love . This is already a spiritual understanding that allows us not to project our longings for love on one specific person, but to realize that we can see a soul mate in everyone. We can choose to fall in love. We can also create the so-called chemistry ourselves, as long as we are in the mood for it.

We can consider everyone we meet as a soul mate who is here to awaken something in us and help us grow in awareness. Everyone we interact with, to a greater or lesser degree, has the potential to inspire, teach, and challenge us to grow. The ego is looking for a special one. But the soul knows that life on Earth is an experience, a gift full of impressions, and every interaction has meaning, and the goal is upward development. If we also meet a soulmate, we can choose to be or not to be together. Also, soul mates do not always develop at the same speed. In that case, we can allow this close soul to experience the path at his chosen pace, but to be together in this life we ​​prefer a person with whom it is safe, good, respectful and loving.

Love is yourself. No one can give it to you and no one can take it away from you.

And you know? – We are the true and only ones for ourselves. Realizing this, only your real people can enter and stay in your life. The real ones are the ones you choose. Because you are the determiner of whom to stay, who to be a bystander, and who to leave.

Author of the article: Ieva Simanovića

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