The ability to give thanks, to deeply and truly feel the meaning of this seemingly simple action - it is a giant force that not only can, but really changes ourselves, our inner state, changes our household, luck and, of course, relationships. Gratitude teaches you to be happy. Compliments can break the ice layer in relationships, where frost forms, bring in completely new breezes and create miracles.

By bringing more and more words of thanks and gratitude into the relationship, it is impossible to stay at the same level where you are.

Positive appreciation and recognition has tremendous uplifting power, so expressions of gratitude change the internal climate of a marriage. It is possible that the ability to thank you was put in the cradle, you grew up with it in your family, saw it in your parents' relationship - it is a great gift.

But, unfortunately, a model is often observed in which everything that is not liked is actively emphasized - you come home too late, you drop your socks, you don't know how to wash the dishes, you don't give flowers often enough... But if you stop at this moment and think about it - what does it do? What is the contribution of reproaches to your relationship? What value will you achieve this way? How exactly will a loved one be able to desire you after such an "evaluation"? Where will there be room for intimacy? Will the relationship become better, deeper, will you respect and love each other more? Non-constructive criticism in a relationship, moreover, about mundane and essentially unimportant things, is completely pointless.

Gratitude to a loved one will always help a relationship to flourish, blossom, mature and take root. You can start with very simple things - thanking for a warm dinner, for clothed children, for a filled car fuel tank; to appreciate how your loved one prepared for your date, organized, negotiated, canceled or moved something to be together... It may seem that he/she knows that I appreciate you anyway. However, it is not.

It is important not to keep words of appreciation and thanks to yourself; verbalizing gratitude is vital. The winner will be not only the partner and the overall relationship, but also yourself! Traveling in the light of all the good that is in our relationship, reminding ourselves of it, actualizing it, our basic feelings also change, we become more empathetic and sensitive towards the loved one. The positive becomes incomparably stronger and acquires an ever greater role , allowing to see the old negations with completely different eyes and ultimately making them less valuable, more insignificant.

The ability to feel deep gratitude is a way of life that completely turns the usual world order upside down, if your world was different. It is a skill that changes not only relationships, but our character, energy, level and self-esteem.

If saying thank you to your partner has not been a regular part of your daily life, it can be practiced by adapting one of the famous gratitude cultivation techniques:

• One of the most well-known is to name three things that I am grateful for every night. In the same way, we can tell our loved one before going to sleep what are the three things for which we are grateful to him today;
• In conflict situations, stop for a moment, get out of the emotions that control us at that moment, and notice the things for which you are grateful to your partner. A very difficult task. But it will be easier to notice the welcome of the loved one and the vision of the other side, which in the saturation of emotions, under the power of our ego, we usually do not see or do not want to see;
• Write a letter of thanks. this will be a particularly beautiful addition to a Christmas gift for your significant other!

Author of the article: IEVA KRASTIņA

Photo: NIRAV PATEL

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