Studying the astrological relationship charts reveals everything that is behind the obvious, behind the conjured illusion, behind the mask and the sweet wedding anniversary photos.

Astrological skills and knowledge are a wonderful tool that, if you know how to use it, you can understand many current issues and also look behind the scenes of relationships. Astrologer Inita Dilane tells about what astrological relationship maps can reveal.

What does an astrological relationship chart show?

First of all, the true roles of the partners are visible in the individual relationship horoscope - what they are to each other. Otrkārt, tas atklāj arī to, kāpēc cilvēki ir satikušies, ko viens otrā veicina, attīsta, sakārto vai, tieši pretēji, bloķē un bremzē. People come to me to understand what the other person is like, what can be expected and not expected, especially when the relationship has just started.

With the help of the synastry method (so-called relationship horoscope cards), you can analyze the relationship with a child, a loved one, a friend, a boss, an employer, a subordinate, a business partner, a company as a whole, also with a pet and even with a car.

Each person enters our life for a specific period of time with a specific task, mission. What is it like? How successful, harmonious or strained can a potential union be? Relationship horoscope cards help to understand why the other person is the way he is, or, on the contrary, why he is not like that, does not act the way we would like. How will a partner express his love, what can he give and what can never be expected from him?

What does love mean? To each his own! For one it's a verb, for another it's a feeling, and for yet another it's just a combination of letters. What does the dating partner want to expect from the relationship, what do they expect from the marriage?

Answers will be displayed on the synastry cards. One will want stability, another security, passion , feelings, but for another, even in a relationship, a sense of freedom or a purely material calculation or some other selfish advantage is important. By putting together the birth charts of the two people, it is possible to determine whether the couple has psychological, sexual, social harmony.

An astrological relationship chart reveals what lies behind the obvious

Visual compatibility or incompatibility is usually clearly visible. How very pleasant or, on the contrary, uncomfortable it is for both of them to go to celebrations, events or visits together is relatively easy to read. Do the two feel like a couple, or are they simply like co-existing, existing companions for a certain point in time.

As we know, all sorts of things happen in life - a slender tall lady meets a chubby man, shorter than her or maybe even older, and both are truly happy. Get along perfectly, support each other, have each other. However, everyday you have to face the attention of others (because you look like a non-standard couple). You have to face condemnation, sidelong glances and whispers: "What has she found in him? He must be rich. Such an incompatible couple, well, they don't fit each other." You've heard something like that, right? 

Or, a couple as visually harmonious as Ken and Barbie, like two beautiful pigeons, meet, and they get compliments: "Such a beautiful couple! So compatible! So very harmonious and suitable for each other! They are sure to be and will be very happy! A beautiful family!" So beautiful that others are even filled with envy, until the moment when the beautiful, brilliant couple chooses to go their separate ways. And then there is a big surprise.

In one of the consultations, I spoke with a guy who married a visually beautiful girl, a model, a couple of years ago. Fell in love with the visual beauty of the girl, with whom he was enchanted, and the rest seemed unimportant. Got married, have a daughter together. It seemed like there would be a happy life, because she was so beautiful and so smart, and she belonged to him, not to someone else who had also lusted and hunted her.

I always compare it to a candy, to a shiny piece of paper that you grab without knowing what's inside. Especially for men, a visually beautiful girl (also this example proves it) is an acquired trophy to be proud of, especially among friends, and to raise their masculine self-confidence. However, while living together, it was revealed that the girl is uneconomical, does not know how to plan expenses, spoils the products in the refrigerator, which he has to constantly fight with, has an alcohol addiction, and also has some nymphomaniac tendencies that always appear at parties where there are strange men. The complete package behind that shiny paper.

I asked: "Didn't you notice it, didn't you feel it from the very beginning?"

He: "As if I had a hunch, but I hoped that everything would change when I got married and had a baby. And everyone said that we were such a beautiful and compatible couple."

What can change if there is nothing at the root of the relationship. There is nothing to grow, nothing to prosper. The horoscope showed that the two were united only by passion, lust and visual compatibility. No indications of psychological and sexual compatibility, which are often not noticed at the beginning of a relationship, because passions and illusions swirl around. Only after a couple of years (three, four), the shine of the paper crumbles and all the conflicts, disagreements and psychological compatibility written in the mutual horoscope are revealed, if they were not there at the start (naively hoping that they would be).

And even a family psychotherapist will not help here. For a while, maybe, but not for long, because the natural nature of the relationship will come out sooner or later anyway. And then gritted teeth have to live together, have to endure, because they already have a common daughter and property that they don't want to sell or divide in half. Even if the heart may have been far away for a long time. None of them are happy in the relationship.

As observations show, some divorce, others continue to exist and eventually achieve long marriages and even celebrate silver or golden weddings, deceiving themselves and others with this brilliant but deceptive form of relationship. What the filling is, it remains solely up to the two.

The astrological card reveals how the relationship will develop

On the relationship cards you can see who can make whom happy or, on the contrary, depress. There is or is not, high or low potential for conflict (this is often also important in building business relationships). It is possible to find out whether the partners will be able to talk, cooperate, trust and rely on each other.

This is often a pressing question for employers. Who is actually the boss and who is the subordinate - this also clearly appears when analyzing the relationship horoscope. Which parent is the authority for the child, who can more effectively inspire, give advice in studies, creative activities. Who is really like a teacher to whom? All this can be learned and understood through the magic of relationship astrology.

Everyone has come across so-called compatibility horoscopes. I also remember from my childhood that magazines described the compatibility between Sun signs, for example, Pisces is compatible with Cancer, but not compatible with Gemini, etc. Yes, but this is a very superficial fact, because only one single Sun is viewed in interaction with the other person's Sun. It is absolutely safe to say that there are no two identical Pisces or two identical Cancers in the world, and it is also important to understand that a female Cancer is definitely different in its manifestations from a male Cancer.

It is important to realize that each couple is unique, one-off and unrepeatable. Compatibility cannot be determined based on Sun signs alone. There are a number of other important factors that reflect how specific people will live, understand and treat each other, and also what their lifestyle will be like. I often hear from clients that, for example, "I'm an Aries, he's a Capricorn, I know we're incompatible, but somehow we've been living together for 20 years now, how come?"

Creating the birth charts of both people will reveal completely different, unique information. The mutual interaction of the Moon signs will be especially important in a joint life, how harmonious or tense it is, because it will indicate how the couple will be able to live under the same roof and solve economic issues, both in cooking and choosing food, as well as in raising children, even sleeping together in the same room or bed.

The Moon also depicts emotions, so the combinations of the Moon will be a significant indicator in psychological compatibility as well. Is the couple just like a glove with a hand, or will they understand each other perfectly on the soul-emotional level and will be just like soul mates , who will be able to shake each other's heart.

It is quite often the case that the expressions and needs of emotions and feelings are completely opposite to each other. One waits for support through a hug, the other turns his back, saying: "I'll come when your pain is over." Because he probably feels that everyone has to deal with their own grief. And the other is offended, because when the other was sad, he would come and hug. This is how disagreements arise when one person expects what they will not expect from the other.

Even a couples therapist won't help here. For a while, maybe, until the couple thinks more carefully about the specialist's recommendations, but not in the long term.  And nothing can be done with it, the interaction of the mutual combinations of planets cannot be changed. You can understand it, accept it or not, live with it or not.

There are no ideal relationships, each has its own stumbling blocks and values. Observations show that even if the sexual harmony is not so good, but there is a good psychological harmony, the couple will live more amicably than when there are nights full of passion, but they do not understand each other emotionally, soulfully.

Even the differences in expressions of love are written in the stars

Love planets in each other's chart also provide valuable information. First of all, what is understood by the word "love" for each other. For one, it is a job done for the other, even if it is cleaning the snow from the car or making breakfast, which seems to be a completely natural activity for someone. He does not see it, does not appreciate it, but is waiting for, for example, a romantic surprise. Gaida, gaida un nesagaida.

The astrologer is able to explain to the client what can be expected and what not. A somewhat humorous observation is about taste and about gifts. If the combinations of these planets will be mutually tense, then even after 10 years of marriage, the husband will still give something that the wife will not be happy about. Will wait for perfume, will receive, for example, a book, good if interesting.

Sometimes when I see these combinations, I ask, do you like to give gifts and surprise? Answer: "Oh, we haven't given each other gifts for a long time, we realized that there is no point in spending money, it's better to go out to dinner together, where everyone can choose something for themselves." Perfect in this situation because they found a compromise.

Another example is when a guy who had recently met a girl gives them a gift card to a hardware store for the holidays. She really wasn't thrilled because she was expecting something more romantic, feminine and personal. However, the guy's gift-giving planet is in a sign that already indicates that practical and useful things will be given, so don't expect earrings here. Of course, you can sulk, but you can also understand that there will be no other way in this relationship. As I always say, no matter how much we want to, we will not get orange juice from tomatoes.

The existence of a feeling of happiness or a feeling of unhappiness is necessarily seen in the analysis of mutual relations. It may turn out that one person is the bearer of happiness or unhappiness for another in his own way (causes a feeling of depression and heaviness). If a person is the bringer of happiness in a relationship, he gives his partner energy, optimism, joy of life, and therefore the partner in this relationship feels happy and the bringer of happiness is also happy. If a person is the bearer of unhappiness in a relationship, it has a depressing effect on their partner and the partner feels unhappy in the relationship.

Astrologically best wedding dates

I believe that even a good choice of date of marriage cannot affect the compatibility or incompatibility of a couple. Psychological or sexual compatibility cannot suddenly arise or conflicts disappear, if they are already at the foundation of the relationship. The date is just the planetary background for this holiday. And that's why it's good to have a good date - let everything be harmonious, the bride's shoe doesn't squeeze, the groom is nicely dressed, the guests behave properly, the dishes don't break, there's no fight. However, as we all know, even the most beautiful wedding celebration, where everything is smooth, beautiful, delicate and expensive - marriages can fall apart even after six months. A harmonious couple will choose a good date for themselves.

Author of the article: astrologer Inita Dilane

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