As in any situation, at a wedding there are things that should and should not be said to the bride and groom. Sometimes guests and loved ones don't even think about it and tell the newlyweds about some of their wedding organizational problems, guests' quarrels or mutual rumors.

LĪGAVĀM.LV tried to find out what, in the end, are the things about which it is better to remain silent.

Keep negative and critical comments to yourself

Wedding decorator and organizer Iluta Piternika / MintDeco is convinced that wedding guests should be able to show a sense of tact and intelligence, so they should think about what to say and what not to say. "In my opinion, you should either say something good about the wedding, both on the wedding day and afterwards, or keep your negative and critical observations to yourself, understanding how much time, effort and energy any couple devotes to organizing a wedding.

Things that a young couple should definitely not complain about are, for example, the weather.

I have seen guests at weddings demonstratively showing how cold they are, making the new couple feel bad. The weather is definitely not something a bride or groom can control. Also, do not run to the couple to solve organizational issues, for example, where someone should sit. Therefore, it is better to have an organizer, ushers or a coordinator at the wedding who will be able to answer these and other questions," says Iluta Piternika.

Who will be the person who will solve the critical issues?

The wedding organizer Júlija Pumpe / Caramel Events also points out that the wedding organizer must be a psychologist in a sense and must always understand the character and temperament of the couple, as well as before the wedding it is necessary to find out with whom the critical issues must be resolved during the wedding. Drivers or a parent often become such a person.

Organizational issues can be different, for example, a guest accidentally broke glasses, and the restaurant demands compensation.

Or one of the third parties (artist, cake supplier, host of the evening) is late and will not be able to arrive on time, then it is necessary to look at the situation, whether this information should be known to the new couple. "In my experience, there are weddings where the host of the evening mixed up the palaces and left for another place. Fortunately, not very far, but he still couldn't arrive on time. So we called the ushers and asked to extend the photo session, so that the host could come to us and start the program before the couple arrived. There was also another case - the host of the evening got stuck in the elevator for a few hours, and in this case there was no opportunity to remain silent. We told the couple, but only when we called another driver, who came and entertained the guests, so we could say that we solved the situation right away. There was also a case when the couple's retro car broke down on the way to the wedding, but I decided to call the groom at this moment, because I didn't want to spoil the bride's mood. "We agreed on possible alternatives, and luckily we found an even better car. The bride found out about the unexpected situation only when she got into the car. By the way, it turned out that the couple wanted the same car model initially, but for various reasons they chose another one," says Julia.

Do not comment on the appearance of the bride and groom

Iluta Piternika indicates that special care should be taken when making various remarks to the newlyweds. For example, you should never say that the bride looks tired or sad. "The bride and also the groom should say good things, for example, that they look happy and beautiful. Of course, if it comes from the heart," reveals Iluta. She also points out that you should not comment on the external appearance of either the bride or the groom or the guests. "Guests often have the habit of commenting on the rest of the appearance. For example, the dress of the bridesmaid, especially if it seems that the dress is too short or the wrong color. The bride does not need to hear such comments," says Iluta. Wedding photographer Ģirts Raģelis / Hold Me Photography also agrees with her, stating that guests should not emphasize if the white wedding dress gets dirty during the evening. "It worries the bride unnecessarily, and nothing can be done anyway. You usually don't see it in the pictures, and there's no point in worrying about it on the day of the holiday. If every friend comes and says that the dress is dirty, sooner or later the bride will get upset," observed Ģirts Raģelis. Júlija Pumpe also agrees with this, stating that this can only be said if there is a solution to the problem. "For such cases, the organizer's "magic suitcase" should have everything.

Conclusion: if you have to tell the couple about a "breakdown", then try to immediately offer an alternative solution. That's how you will reduce stress," advises Yulia.

No – to rumors and gossip

Similarly, such things as rumours, various quarrels and incidents from the wedding celebration should remain out of hearing of the bride and groom. This should be remembered not only by the wedding guests, but also by the professionals involved in the wedding. There should not be a situation where one of the wedding service providers suggests that another professional (for example, the host of the evening) will be worse or better.