Weddings are characterized by joy, excitement, happiness, falling in love and other positive emotions. Even the excitement on the wedding day is positive. But if this day brings only positive feelings, why are there so many brides and grooms around the world who experience so-called post-wedding sadness or post-wedding depression? Those young couples who face this are looking for an answer to the questions, what is happening to me, is there something wrong with me, why am I not happy? The good news is that everything is fine with you, you're just going through changes, which, as we know, are not always easy to accept.

Post-wedding depression – a real thing

For some young couples, all the stress of wedding planning and coordinating the big day turns into unexpected sadness after the wedding. This can be for a variety of reasons – relief that the stress of wedding planning is over, frustration that close friends and family are no longer around, or a feeling of “what next”. If one of the newlyweds is experiencing these feelings, first of all, it's a good idea to remind yourself that you're not crazy, but that post-wedding depression is a real thing that anyone can deal with, no matter how happy or spectacular their wedding day was.

Post-wedding depression is characterized by boredom, sadness, feeling of loneliness, desire to isolate from people, anxiety about the upcoming future and many other negative emotions.

Many people experience ups and downs in their lives, including sadness and depression after major events and events in their lives. It turns out that post-wedding depression can be experienced not only by the new couple themselves, but also by their parents, who also symbolically start a new phase of life, as a new member joins their family. Also, this situation can affect conductors who have been actively involved in organizing processes for a long time, often putting aside their daily concerns and other responsibilities. You just need to understand where this feeling "grows legs" from and what to do to overcome this sadness.

Set new goals and dreams

To overcome post-wedding depression, the first step is to change your focus – instead of focusing on the wedding day, you should start focusing on the marriage and your union as a whole.

Setting new goals and being passionate about them will gradually replace negative and depressive feelings.

1. First of all, if the bride or groom already realizes during the wedding planning process that they are one of those people who focus more on the wedding day than the upcoming changes in their relationship, then the focus should be changed in time.
2. Of course, it is beautiful and also important to make the wedding day one of the most beautiful days of life, but also during the pre-wedding period, you should talk to each other about what will follow after the wedding, what you both want to accomplish together, what are your goals, dreams... You should start with real things that can be fulfilled in the near future, such as unpacking wedding gifts, spending the gift cards given, renovating the bedroom, planning a closer or further journey, thereby achieving a sense of excitement for what lies ahead.
3. Also, the daily life of the new couple should include many happy and exciting events, because joy helps to get closer to each other even when already married.

Talk to a specialist

The sadness that takes over after the wedding, if necessary, can also be discussed with a professional - a psychotherapist, a relationship coach or a counselor, for example, the pastor who married you.

Sometimes an outside view of the current situation is very useful and helps to see things and situations in a different light. Sometimes the new wife or husband hides these conflicting feelings that came over him after the wedding, not wanting to offend the other, but should be open to the beloved and admit his weakness. It is possible that your loved one will find the right words that will allow you to see everything in a completely different light. Trust in marriage is very important and this is a great opportunity to practice it.

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