Wedding is one of the most serious decisions in the life of both a woman and a man. Full of joy, dreams and visions of the future. It cannot be determined which is better - to get married after a short acquaintance, which may seem risky to many, or after 10 years of being together. It has been observed in life that even after many years of being together, a wedding can turn out to be the beginning of the end of a relationship, and not the other way around. We collect 10 important questions to ask yourself before getting married in order to feel confident and be able to say with certainty - this is really my beloved person with whom I want to spend my whole life!

1. Who am I?

In order to live a fulfilling, happy life where you know what you want and aim for it, you need to know yourself. I need to know who and what I am. What I like, what I like to do, what kind of person I want by my side, what are my limits. It often takes time to discover yourself, because from childhood we are burdened with family beliefs, habits, and society's judgments. But the real you may be completely different. Also, if you were in a relationship at a young age, when your personality hasn't yet formed, it can be even more difficult to understand relationship stumbling blocks during a time when both of you are forming and transforming. If you've been together since you were young, it's worth remembering that it's completely normal and natural for you to change.

2. What does my intuition say?

Sometimes the mind says one thing and the heart another. The heart is the voice of our intuition. If you feel resistance to this marriage, which cannot be explained by the mind, listen to the voice of your heart, because it always tells the truth.

3. Am I authentic in this relationship?

Pavēro, vai jūties šajās attiecībās, kā tu pats, vai arī jūti spiedienu un otras puses centienus tevi mainīt, kritizēt, kontrolēt un ielikt sevis iztēlotā rāmītī. Do you feel real and free in your relationship?

4. Why am I with this person?

Do I really love him? Is it just a habit, a fear of being alone?

5. Do I accept the dark sides of my partner?

Every person has a dark side. Unless it is destructive or in any way violent and humiliating, then you should think - are you able to accept and acknowledge both your personal and your partner's dark sides? If you mutually accept and acknowledge them, it is much easier to resolve disputes, understand situations, and transform shadows into light.

6. Are we growing together?

Do these relationships make us smarter, more positive, and happier? Are relationships like an upward curve that makes us better people? Are we growing together? If only one of the pair develops, and the other remains where it was, soon there will be no common point where the two meet.

7. Is my partner happy with my achievements and supportive of my advancement efforts or vice versa?

Does your partner support you in your choices, career advancement, studies, interests? Do you hate and don't want to be socially active or earn more?

8. Am I happy in this relationship?

A very simple but profound question to answer honestly. A reminder to listen to your heart.

9. Are we able to amicably and respectfully agree on practical matters - choosing a place to live, the concept of the number of children and upbringing in the family, the financial support of the family?

The mentioned practical matters are useful and reasonable to discuss before the wedding. Everyone's idea of ​​what a family is, when it's time for children to enter it, and how responsibilities are divided in the family can be drastically different.

10. How will we divide the responsibilities of wedding organization?

Organizing a wedding is the first test for almost married couples. Take the time to talk about wedding planning so that the areas of responsibility are divided and no one feels that planning a wedding is a huge job on their shoulders, but instead enjoys organizing a wedding with joy.

Author of the article: Ieva Simanovića