To be honest, even if a couple started a relationship out of feelings of love, over time, the relationship becomes a transaction in which the other is expected. In which we give with the intention of receiving in return.

Expecting that my partner will fulfill my wishes and fill the empty spaces that I don't know how to fill myself is an unconscious approach to relationships and leads to a crash, where it won't even be clear how it happened.

Intentional relationships are those in which the givers are both. Both cups are full. I don't give because I expect something in return. I give because nothing makes me happier than seeing you flourish. But do not misunderstand - a conscious person does not give to someone who does not know how to respect and love. Therefore, there is nothing toxic here, but a path to a different, deeper level of relationship. For partnerships in the literal sense of the word.

In a relationship between two conscious, mature, truly loving people, there is a balance between give and take. Both are fulfilling. Therefore, both also receive.

Tops about what you want to meet

Sometimes it may seem that meeting a person with whom to build a truly deep relationship is an almost impossible mission. But here we can take the advice of researcher and bestselling author Joe Dispenza on what to do to meet such a person:

"Take a pen and paper and write down all the qualities you want to see in your loved one. And then be proud of it!"

In order to attract what we want to experience in our life, we must present this energy ourselves, whether it be a partnership, business, income or any other area of life that is important to us. If you want a focused partner, do you have this quality yourself? If you want a supportive person by your side, are you one yourself? If you want your partner to know how to sift the wheat from the chaff in challenging life situations, do you do it yourself? Do you feel complete and filled with your life already, and next to a cool person to share it with every day and night, not missing like a button, but would be a beautiful and deeply powerful addition, so that together we can give even more powerful energy to the world

Assuming that the partner is our mirror, it becomes easier to understand why we meet a certain type of partner and why we experience certain types of situations. Example: if you take care of the household, work, cook dinner alone, without the involvement of your partner, it drains you, irritates, saddens and annoys you. But why has this situation arisen? Because there was a moment when you accepted it. A moment when you are not aware of your limits, and now they are violated regularly. Acceptance is given. Your partner reflects in a way you don't like, that you haven't learned to respect yourself yet, clearly stating what works for you and what doesn't. Without blaming or demanding, but focusing on yourself: how do you feel. And if it is not respected, even when you have respectfully told about your needs... there is food for thought, whether you are ready to let the boundaries be crossed and choose to suffer in the future, or close the door to this stage of life in order to become the determiner of your own choices and life path.

And then he will come…

But that doesn't happen at all. You keep meeting similar types as long as you choose them from the same position - with the same views, with the same communication style, with the same perception of the world. As long as we wear glasses of one color, we can only see through them in that color.

One must be reborn to create a conscious relationship. You have to fill your cup so that you recognize the similar. You have to fill your cup so that you feel the fervor and excitement of life and be able to create and experience joy not because of external circumstances, but because it decides. Because the existence of a partner in our life is an external circumstance. But what we do and do with this beautiful circumstance is related to our inner circumstances. With how we feel about ourselves. Because we can meet the most wonderful and open person, but if our cup is half empty and filled with suspicion, mistrust, self-doubt, inability to listen and inability to express, the relationship will not be able to start any long-term course.

Love like a magnet

Become what you want to attract. If you radiate love and joy of life, you will attract a suitable partner into your magnetic field, whose cup will be just as full. Of course, honey is sweet and will also attract unwanted insects, because who doesn't like light. However, with your light, you will be able to recognize almost instantly who comes to be with you, and who just wants to take.

How you think and how you feel is like a radio signal that you send into the room so that you can be recognized. As long as you signal insecurity, a sense of lack or modesty in your desires and needs, those who benefit from it refer to it - those who are going to invest in the relationship... nothing.

That is why it is important not to jump from one relationship to another, but to really work on yourself. Assess, search, analyze - what belief and behavior patterns shape my current self, partner choices and relationship outcomes?

What can I do differently? What do I want to believe? How do I want to feel?

Everything really starts from ourselves. And when your radio plays your favorite song, you will hear which radio channel is playing similar sounds.

You will give up everything that is not love. From anything that is not driven by pure intention.

Create not find

Just like with money, you don't look for relationships, you create them. What kind of power we will create - it again depends on the internal state. Does it have a sense of scarcity or abundance. Undoubtedly, falling in love brings joy. But it is a short-term pleasure if it is not based on a solid foundation - where both parties feel emotionally and spiritually rich both together and separately. Where you don't wait for someone to create happiness in your life, but make a decision and create it yourself. If we are looking, we are signaling that we are missing something. If we attract (create) - we are in abundance, where when a partner enters, it does not fill the empty spaces, but enriches even more.

In order to manifest, you must first create a feeling. And only later does it materialize. Seems simple? If it is not practiced, then it is not that simple - it takes practice. Because a feeling is not a thought, and it is often confused - the fact that you regularly tell yourself that you love yourself does not mean that you will feel it if you do not let this thought into your body. We can manifest if we release the desire through the body as a belief that it has already been fulfilled. Because the body does not distinguish whether it is the future or the present. The body has only the present. Make your body believe!

Desire to measure disappears

When you learn to love as your basic state, not a miracle that suddenly happens, the prism through which you look at partnerships changes. The need to wait disappears, the need to fight over who shows more attention to whom disappears. The point of blaming or being offended disappears.

You choose differently.

You are no longer interested in building a relationship with a partner who is not open, emotionally available or unable to tolerate his and your feelings. You no longer have interesting jealousy games or three days of silence. You look at life through the prism of love and are so in love with it that less is neither interesting nor relevant anymore.

It is only interesting for you if you enrich and strengthen each other. And it happens naturally. Given for given in the most beautiful sense.

Article author: Ieva Simanoviča