Consciousness - this word can be heard so often that it is very likely that it comes out and runs past just like the background a song heard on the radio. But thus meaning and depth also pass us by. Awareness is truly a value, great and a transformative value to bring into your consciousness. And things change. Consciousness is not only our personal sense of life changing state. Being conscious in relationships, we see them in a completely different quality. Not only in ascending quality. We are open-eyed to things as they are, without making our relationship story or idea about the person we love illusory.

Being conscious in a relationship means seeing the real situation, real things to work with, to think about, to changed to a new quality. Courage to look at the moment here and now and not look away. And what cannot be changed and no need, - accept and let it be. We tend to want the other to change, give more compliments, although in our own experience not experienced and not familiar with such a concept, starts cooking dinner, even though he can't stand at the stove. We are waiting and we fantasize. But is it worth it? Doesn't it make more sense to let go of this emphasis on what we want to change in the second, recovering for nothing wasted energy that we can instead invest in wonderful dates, being together and also in our creative work projects or hobbies? Appreciate the good qualities and contribution of the loved one in the relationship as a gift. To be together and to hear the real him, not the fantasized one? In relationships where we don't talk much about our feelings and don't listen to the other to the depths, we are waiting and arguing not with our beloved, but with the image we have fantasized by giving both bad and good qualities not belonging to him. And also shift all the responsibility to him. Because why not try on the contrary - if you want the other half to change something in you, but this one does not and does not do it, why not start with yourself and not change yourself, your behavior pattern, your attitude?

And if we turn the mirror to the other side - the ancient Latvians knew how to put simple and intelligent truths of life into words, as the last one does not burn. Although never say never, it must be said that it will never happen in life that only one person has it imperfections (and oh yes, imperfections are beauty, which in true love we love, not mouse). The other's shortcomings or a behavior pattern can provoke us to reveal aspects of ourselves to work with. Heat up quickly? Playing the victim? I take but don't give? Being conscious in a relationship makes us notice these things, and that's wonderful. We can thank ourselves, for the other half and the situation that our own shortcomings have come to light and we can finally roll up our sleeves and start with to work for them.

Interesting facts about mindfulness:

• Mindfulness practice can be considered a form of meditation; although it is based on more than 2500 years of ancient Buddhism in the meditative tradition, mindfulness is also a rational exercise of the mind;
• The skill of mindfulness must be trained and implemented in your everyday life just like gymnastics, no mindfulness practitioner will not remain without results;
• It has been proven in many scientific studies that practicing mindfulness makes a noticeable contribution to both emotional and in physical health, thereby allowing you to experience your everyday, creative and career life at a completely different level of quality fulfillment, relationships with loved ones and other people;
• Mindfulness practice includes knowledge, meditations and exercises for clarity of mind and wholeness of body.

Author of the article: IEVA KRASTIņA

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