The marriage ceremony is the most important part of the wedding day. In a couple's relationship, it is like a dividing line between what has been and what will be. And what has been, each of us has our own. I often hear from couples that they don't want a wedding like everyone else's, they want something special. And that special thing, in my opinion, is precisely the path of each of us to each other. Why not include the story of it in the marriage ceremony to make it truly personal and heartfelt?

The love between two people is intimate, it concerns only the two of them. Although we communicate with our friends and relatives every day, we go out in society as a couple, this does not require us to open the doors of our private lives. However, the special festive atmosphere of the wedding day arises thanks to the feeling of mutual trust between the young couple and the guests, so that during the day one of the most beautiful and inspiring moments of life can be experienced with ease and joy.

The wedding is often a very challenging period for the young couple in terms of organization, which is often followed by the feeling that everything was done - the wedding was beautiful, elegant and well thought out, but the day has passed without a feeling of emotional fulfillment. This, in my opinion, is one of the hardest realizations that a young couple faces, because it turns out that on the wedding day, just the issued document and the party are not enough.

What do we expect on our wedding day?

We want to lose ourselves even for a moment on this day, touching that which stands above time and space. Because this ritual requires a promise from us that we make before God and people. Our reputation will definitely be tested at some point in our lives, perhaps even several times.

This is not a day to hurry, but on the contrary - when the bride approaches her loved one while the music is playing, time has stopped. I have noticed that often one of the guests is already drying the tears in their eyes, because there is something so beautiful and peaceful, even steamy about it.

Although the ceremony is often the "stiff" part, less emotional than the unofficial part of the wedding, it shouldn't be. It is during the marriage ceremony that a fire is lit, which will burn in the hearts of the spouses and guests throughout the wedding day. This is the moment when the bride and groom are by each other's side and all other pairs of eyes are left behind. It is here that you have the opportunity to find the eyes of your loved one, open your heart to make a promise and realize that this moment is only about us and our love.

What do I want to hear during the marriage ceremony?

Although most wedding ceremony leaders are professionals, we have to admit that from time to time we hear stories about mixed up names and other confusions. I was once at a wedding where they mentioned how many marriages the groom had already been in. It seems like a small thing, but is this what the bride wanted to hear when she married this person?

This is a question that every young couple should ask themselves - how do I want to feel? Solemnly? Romantic and intimate? Fun and easy? Do we want to hear words historically spoken through time, perhaps ones that entertain guests or take us back to our own memories of our relationship?

The ceremony in the church takes place traditionally, but in situations where it is possible to adapt it to the wishes of the new couple, an individual ceremony scenario is created. For example, in cases where a couple chooses to celebrate a small and intimate wedding, there is a desire to extend the marriage ceremony.

There are couples who choose to include their love story, personalized wedding vows, or a promise written by the bride and groom themselves. The new couple creates it together with the leader of the marriage ceremony, the wedding leader, or hires a person to help create such a text.

Individual ceremony text

Do you know what your love story would be? What could and would you like to say about yourself, about your relationship and the life you want to create together with your loved one? I know that sometimes it is more difficult to find the right words for something that is so close and personal, because how can I highlight in my feelings the most important thing that I want to say to my loved one on our wedding day, knowing that all our relatives and friends will hear it? Am I willing to be so open and bravely bear this sense of slight vulnerability in the name of something more noble?

Because these love stories are like golden threads that weave through our lives and highlight the precious things that we have experienced in relationships. Daily customs known only to you, your memories from the beginning of the relationship, coded key words that are understood only by both of you, affectionate nicknames or stories that are already included in family folklore, provide an opportunity both for you to be emotionally touched during the ceremony, and also to allow the guests to see you with different eyes, to feel the depth of your feelings, compatibility. In this way, you yourself will create an aura of love that will envelop everyone present and set the mood for the wedding.

Individually made marriage vows express your personal beliefs, so to get there, you will need an open conversation with each other, which during the pre-wedding period gives you the opportunity to talk about important questions, for example, what do you expect from each other, what is everyone's understanding of what marriage means to each of you personally, and what are you ready to swear when starting a life together?

Undeniably, marriage vows , especially the vows made by themselves, make the ceremony emotional, because it is the voices of the new couple that crackle, laugh, cry because of the emotion that is very palpable in these moments, so it is recommended to include them, because the wedding is a celebration of love, joy and a sense of togetherness. It is a day in life that should be filled with bright thoughts and good, strengthening words.

When creating an individual ceremony text, it can also include the wishes of the parents when the new couple starts living together, if it is known that they will not be able to say the toast at the table , because not everyone can do it easily. The presence of the family gives the young couple stability and a sense of belonging, and the desire to emphasize it especially on this day is justified. It contains a huge power that will guide this family in the future, help it, strengthen it through its favor.

Another very important aspect of the ceremony is the question - where do we take this relationship further? We have agreed to develop, build a family, represent ourselves in society as a married couple, yet there are differences in the quality, in what depth we interact with the world.

From time to time we all need inspiration or a vision of what might be waiting for us if we are brave enough, open-minded and ready to take a leap outside of our comfort zone. And marriage is the truest when we continue to get to know ourselves, continue to develop and experience ourselves in different situations, roles in life, so that each of them reveals another unknown aspect in us. Feeling the special connection of each couple, we can create this sense of direction, because the ceremony does not stop at one point, but on the contrary - it takes us to the next level.

How is an individual ceremony text created?

Your story is built by getting to know you as a couple, meeting and expressing your wishes. It can be a meeting at your home, maybe a meeting outside of it, but with the opportunity to see photos that have been created over time and give an insight into your life together. Couples usually find it interesting to answer different questions prepared for the bride and groom, the discussion of which is filled with laughter and fun memories.

After collecting the information, a draft is created, which can be corrected and refined until the right words are found that reflect exactly your love story. There have also been situations where the couple chooses not to read the final version of the ceremony text so that they will hear it for the first time on the wedding day. When the final version is created, it is sent to the master of ceremonies to prepare for the study of this text.

The prepared text of the ceremony is often kept in an album together with the photos of that day, and every year on the wedding anniversary or on some not-so-sunny wedding day, it can be reread to draw inspiration and strength, because the wedding day is not a happy ending, but a beautiful beginning of a long and loving marriage. That's exactly what I want for you!

Author of the article: Eliza East