When planning their wedding, couples tend to look for help and advice everywhere - from the wedding planner, Pinterest and officiants to friends, acquaintances and those couples who are already married. However, the question remains, how much can we tell those around us before the wedding and what should we keep to ourselves?

Keeping the wedding planning process a secret

Unfortunately, copying ideas is very common these days - if it is almost impossible to avoid it after the wedding, then before the big event such an option exists.

If you have come up with a unique wedding concept, the bride has bought a wedding dress that she has never seen before, or you have found a venue that most of the Internet does not yet know about, then you should not share your ideas, discoveries and wishes widely during wedding planning. This means that at least part of the wedding planning process will have to be kept a secret from Instagram and other social media followers, as well as wedding guests.

Another reason why you should not tell the invited guests everything planned for the wedding before the upcoming event is so that the guests experience a moment of surprise. The less they know, the more surprised they will be, the more it will show in their emotions.

Don't discuss the wedding budget with couples who got married five years ago

You will say - in that case, we will consult already married couples, because we will not have to be afraid of copying ideas (after all, they are already married) and we will be able to get additional advice.

It can be done, of course, but before that you should carefully evaluate whether the wedding style of the particular couple matches your understanding of beauty and taste, and also know how long ago they said yes to each other .

Wedding fashion changes as fast, if not faster, than clothing fashion, so what, for example, five years ago was relevant and fashionable, can now seem morally outdated.

Wedding organizer and decorator Iluta Piternika / MintDeco advises couples, for example, not to discuss the wedding budget with couples who have been married for five or more years. As the wedding industry develops, both the financial investment and the wishes and needs of couples change, so it should not be assumed that a wedding that cost, for example, 10 thousand euros five years ago, would look and cost the same now.

Surprise the drivers too

Although the presenters are often the people who know almost everything about the wedding (especially if they have also taken it upon themselves to organize it), they should also be left with some unknown things, so that they too can experience a surprise at the couple's wedding.

Of course, the presenters need to know the script, because most likely they will have prepared some surprise moments for the couple themselves, but you can not reveal to them if and when you are going to say your special thank you to them.

Also, if you plan to learn something together and sing a duet song for all the guests or stage an interesting dance, you can keep it a secret from the presenters and the other guests, coordinating only with the musicians or the host of the evening (if, of course, they are not the presenters themselves).

Speaking about presenters as evening presenters, Iluta Piternika advises couples to think carefully and understand whether each presenter automatically qualifies for the title of evening presenter as well. If the conductors are shy, unable to loosen up, then there is probably no need to torment them by entrusting them with this duty. In that case, it is much more worthwhile to consider hiring an evening manager.

Not only don't let others copy, but also don't copy yourself

Just as you should not over-share your wedding planning ideas, it is not recommended to be overly inspired by other couples' weddings.

Of course, you can be inspired, but it would not be desirable to copy. You definitely want to avoid the situation where your wedding is compared to her and her cousin or her and her celebrity wedding. Your wedding day should be unique, one that will describe both of you.

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