Many dream of the one and only soulmate who understands us without words, shares similar values ​​and makes the heart beat faster in pleasant excitement and lust. About a person with whom we can spend hours of conversations, and always interesting and exciting. To meet a soulmate with whom you can establish a close, deep long-term relationship is truly happiness. And we must strive for it. However, there is a but. Modern spirituality talks a lot about a soulmate as a partner, but in a highly romanticized way. However, romance is not everyday. Romance is not the routine, duties, and responsibilities that one must undertake in one's real life. Romance and a stable long-term relationship are not the same thing. Romance is a value that a long-term relationship must have. Absolutely. It feeds. Brings closer. Even after decades, a spark is lit. However, the fact that we can spend exciting conversations and go on wonderful trips with a person, give gifts and make each other happy, feel not only physically, but also spiritually, is not an indicator that a healthy long-term relationship is possible.

But what is it?

When real life comes, the question arises: is this dream person really the one with whom I can build a long-term and healthy marriage? What happens when a child enters the family? Is he ready to be fully present and supportive in the most difficult moment of life? Does he realize that putting the dirty dishes in the dishwasher, doing the laundry and sweeping the floor is the responsibility of every adult householder? Does he realize that you also need a holiday in unit ? A soul mate is not automatically an ideal marriage partner. Spiritual harmony is an extremely important, yet insufficient aspect of building human relationships. Because we can all fly in the clouds. All we want. But not everyone knows how to ground and integrate the knowledge gained in spiritual practices, books and podcasts into the life of Earth. Often, what at first appears to be a bright and divine light-emitting piece of paper, the one to meditate with, the one to talk to about existence after physical death, the one who has had an out-of-body experience, in its practical manifestations is the same dude as immediately before. Just speak more beautifully. More epic. And uses the new knowledge in not the purest forms. But in life - it doesn't change anything.

What is a soulmate?

The term "soul mate" is often used to describe a person with whom we feel a very deep, almost magical connection. It is the feeling that the other person's presence soothes, complements and understands us, even without words. In psychology, this can be equated to emotional intimacy or a similar view of values.

However, it should be noted that the feeling that someone is our "other side of the soul" can be strong, but that does not mean that it will be easy in practical life. Soulmates can be too similar or emotionally charged, which can cause tension in the long run. Therefore, before dreaming of marriage with a soulmate, it is worth looking more broadly - do we really have compatibility in everyday life?

We all have several soul mates who have incarnated with us. There are also several possible choices on the love front - depending on which path we choose to take. Therefore, you should not be sad if you have met a soulmate, but feel and understand - no, something is not right to live together and start a family. It can be. We each enter each other's life with a specific purpose. If we see that the potential is exhausted, we say thank you for the experience and let go. And let's move on - to meet someone with whom to build a really high-quality relationship.

To be friends

One of the most meaningful aspects of a healthy long-term relationship – respectful friendship . In friendship, we are aware of and accept the different sides of ourselves and our partner, respect his interests, support and inspire. We are aware that a partner is a person with his own desires, needs, interests and emotions. Because friends are not together only in ease. Friends are together and by their side in everything.

Liability file

Common conversations, time spent relaxing, common meditations and trips - it's easy. Such being together is emotionally uplifting and inspiring. But is your soulmate just as present and supportive when you're going through a challenge? Is he present and just as inspiring when you are sick, when you are sick, when someone close to you needs help? Does he have a liability file? The ability to take care and understanding that life is not only a flight, but also a stable standing with bare feet on the ground?

The most important qualities that build a stable, healthy long-term relationship

1. Trust

True intimacy is impossible without trust. It is mutually important - both that I trust you and that you trust and don't doubt me.

2. Communication

Open, honest and respectful communication helps to solve conflicts, share feelings and build a deeper understanding, moreover - to avoid misunderstandings and significantly shorten the time spent in disagreements.

3. Respect

Listening, empathy, respect for the other person's opinion and needs are essential factors that ensure balance and emotional safety.

4. Emotional intelligence

The ability to share your feelings and accept the other's emotions without judgment or defensiveness and the desire to prove something or compete helps to build a deep connection.

5. Logical and fair conflict resolution

In a long-term relationship, conflicts are inevitable, but what is important is how they are resolved - without humiliation and resentment, but with respect, listening and joint search for a solution.

6. Common values and life goals

Similar views on family, career, lifestyle and future vision help align decisions and direction.

7. Ability to forgive and grow

Relationships develop when people are able to admit mistakes, forgive and learn from experience instead of getting stuck in resentments.

8. Time and attention

Quality time spent and genuine attention to each other strengthens emotional closeness.

9. Mutual support

Partners who support each other in both personal challenges and successes form a stronger bond.

10. Emotional and physical intimacy

Both physical and emotional intimacy keep the connection alive - it is not only about sexuality, but also about tenderness, touches, love, the desire to be close and a soul connection.

Marriage - love or partnership?

Marriage is often romanticized as the pinnacle of love, but in reality it is more than a partnership. The ability to cooperate, solve problems and share responsibility is important in a long-term relationship. If a soul mate embodies intense emotions, it can also lead to intense disagreements.

On the other hand, a marriage with a person with whom there is friendship, trust and a common outlook on life is more stable. Emotional balance often turns out to be more important than romantic understanding without words. In addition, sometimes a person who we initially perceive as "the real one" can turn out to be emotionally unstable or even toxic in the long run. Therefore, it is more important than whether someone seems related in spirit, whether we can grow together with this person, solve problems and be each other's support even in difficult moments.

Pop culture tells us that the "real man" exists somewhere out there - and when we meet him, everything will become simple. This thought is both beautiful and dangerous. In reality, relationships - including marriage - are constant work, compromises and growth. A soulmate can be real, but even with this person, you will need to work on the relationship. They should be taken care of, yes. This aspect has not changed.

Author of the article: Ieva Simanoviča