all I want today is a hug. this movement is as old as humanity and expresses much more than two height contact. A hug is like saying, “I feel safe in your presence and I'm not afraid, I can relax and feel at home, I am protected and understood.” / Paulo Coelho

"I want you to touch me more during lovemaking..."

How do you think a man could respond to such invitations, direct expression of desire? Perhaps there is confusion as to how do you have to live at all to get to the moment when a woman invites you TO TOUCH? Until a woman craves and longing to experience real, true, safe, open, confident and pleasurable touches?

Can you imagine that a man could... deny a woman these vitally important touches?

But that's life and it also happens. We are so different, and sometimes it happens that different understandings meet and personalities of experiences. It happens that the other lacks a basic understanding of the meaning of touch and intangible different character.

The touch is fragile, but there is great power in it.

Remember when you were in love and accidentally touched her/his hand? Remember the wave of energy that ran through your body? Do you remember how after the first meetings you were refreshed in the moments of memories created by this touch? And pa by really, really, really respecting, appreciating and protecting our partner, we can maintain this ability to feel pleasurable tingles from touch alone even after 10, 15 or more years spent together. And it should be emphasized again - truly respecting and loving. Not taking your significant other for granted. Without letting the relationship run its course. Taking care and maintaining them alive

And that is not the only evidence of the power of touch. There is magic in them. Today. Touch is the first sense which we develop in the mother's womb as , but throughout life it has a huge importance both in the emotional world and both in health and in our contact with the outside world. Touch spares, comforts, heals and enlivens... "Touch is the forgotten love language ”, Osho claims. And that's it really is.

Touch is one of the ways we express love. If you too touching, cuddling and caressing is a pleasant, self-evident and indispensable daily routine, incredible, but still there are quite a few people who don't really know how to make friends with touch. They don't want them. apparently. Apply cold mask and deceive themselves. Because it remains only at that moment when they tell you: "Just don't touch me", easy put a hand on the shoulder and the emotions will come out.

The floodgates will be open. And so it should be! Why are people so afraid to "let go" emotions, give them their freedom and then breathe a sigh of relief? However, you have to be a little careful here - if you and I touch seems a natural and integral part of everyday life, it does not mean that the other will have it. You have to feel the border, which is formed by a whole behind the scenes mix - culture, upbringing, individuality... Why are Latvians apparently cooler than, say the spanish? Believe it or not, the fact that even the climate affects our natural desire for (foreign) touch - we don't have a lot of steamy summer weather, we're wrapped up in layers of clothes, so the skin is not exposed to the uninvited touches from the outside even caused.

The natural and healing power of touch is also taught to us by children and even animals - those who have not yet accepted strangers beliefs about their own. When receiving caresses or massages , which are touches in the most literal sense, the nervous system relaxes , as a result - the stress level decreases and we heal. As known, touch stimulates the release of oxytocin, the hormone of happiness. Scientifically researched that in order to feel good, a person a minimum of eight touches per day are required. But to improve - twelve.  So - regularly. For such the statement could be disputed, because we are too different to "extract" such an arithmetic average the number of touches we each need.

And the conditions are different - not everyone has the opportunity to receive touches every day. And maybe, as in most cases, emphasis focus on quality, not quantity. It is important that the healing power of touch can be given to oneself as well or massaging the feet, hugging. Although this does not involve an exchange of energy, it is a way of learning to be aware here and now.

But returning to the topic - touches in bed. What can be more erotic than seemingly accidental or completely deliberate touch? For not being afraid to feel and enjoy. Caress. Give caresses. Because touch is not just physical. Touch carries important emotional information. The way you are touched - gently, sensitively, grabbed, or on the contrary - sloppy. A light whisper in your ear, lips almost accidentally touching your skin, feeling your breath created touches, a kiss on the neck, head massage with fingertips, gentle caresses, fingertips slowly and almost imperceptibly sliding over your back, legs and fingertips... For a woman, the whole body is like one big, endless erogenous zone! And this means that in intimate relationships, caresses dedicated to all areas of the body can do wonders things.

I read a long time ago that men need to be touched harder. Well, quite literally. But you know what? They are complete nonsense! The fiercest alpha male in a woman's caresses will... soften.

To listen to yourself and know how to ask. To listen to the loved one and allow the miracle of touch. Everyone can give and share this miracle. Every day.

Author of the article: IEVA KRASTIņA

Photo: LAUREN GRAYSON, MARTIJN ROOS, INTIMATE LENS STUDIO, KONSTANTYN LIBEROV, SHEWOLF_UNLEASHED, BEAUTIFULLY UNDRESSED

Visual content artist: KSENIJA BELCA-BESLER

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