Few weddings miss the festive first dance . But what is a private dance and how to plan it in the wedding day scenario?

What is a private dance?

The wedding celebration is classically opened with the first dance. The couple prepares carefully for it and although it is undeniably special and romantic, it is more of a performance for the guests, the couple is focused during it to dance it perfectly in front of everyone present. When the bride Iveta Jaunzeme planned her wedding, she and her husband carefully focused on staging the first dance, but she knew nothing about the concept of a private dance and there was no information about it anywhere.

It all started with the fact that the couple couldn't decide on a good song for the first dance, because they liked both equally well - Lord Huron's "The Night We Met" chosen by the husband, and "Take On Me" by the group A-ha chosen by Yvette. While reviewing the content of the social media platform TikTok, which at that time was full of various wedding suggestions for Yvette, she noticed a video where a bride talks about the fact that her best decision at the wedding was to dance the dance without guests, as a couple. There was no need to make a choice anymore and the couple decided to dance the first classic dance to "The Night We Met" in the presence of guests, and the second - to the song "Take On Me" as a private dance. They thought that the second dance would not be staged. With the first one, the couple went through the courses, they included some combinations from the staged dance in the second one, but there was no need to jump on it, everything was guided by feelings, in the flow.

Where and when to dance the private dance?

Since there will only be two of you, it can be danced anywhere. If the place of celebration allows it, it can be a separate room, but then you need to think about how it will be possible to play music, and if you plan to capture the dance in photos and videos, you should consider what the visual design of the room will be. Of course, it is most convenient to do it in the main celebration room, where the dance floor is arranged and there are sound systems. It's really cool if you can arrange with the musicians to play your private dance too, just the two of you.

Thinking about how to integrate the private dance into the wedding scenario, Iveta and her husband came to the conclusion that a charming solution would be to dance it at the moment when the festive dinner has already been tasted and the celebration is underway. The time and place for the private dance was found very organically, as the wedding was planned for the wedding, which took place in the field. Therefore, before the ceremony, all the guests with the host of the evening went outside to prepare the place for the ceremony, light the bonfire, light the magic candles and meet in the tunnel through which the young couple then went. this moment of preparation remained free for the couple and Iveta imagined that they could perform a private dance at that moment. There wasn't an awkward moment of waiting for everyone to do something for a couple to come out. There was also no need to go away from the celebration site or plan other activities for the guests so that the couple could be alone and perform the dance.

The private dance can also be the last dance of the evening , which is danced when the guests have already left and the couple is the last one left in the place of celebration. It's like the end of the day, a moment for two. However, in reality, it is often impossible to plan and implement it if there is no end time for the celebration. Wedding scenarios tend to be different and sometimes the guests continue the celebration even after the new couple leaves to enjoy the wedding night. Also, the private dance can be scheduled as the first dance. However, according to Iveta, the most logical scenario is to include it during the evening, when you've already had dinner and the party is already underway. Another option for integrating the private dance into the wedding scenario is to schedule it during the couple's photo session in a beautiful location. But even then you have to think about the possibility of playing music.

Why include a private dance in the wedding scenario?

The private dance can be danced by two people, but most often couples choose to do it in the presence of a photographer and a videographer. The result will be exceptionally beautiful and romantic pictures. this scenario was also chosen by Iveta and her husband. As she admits, the photos from the classic first dance in the presence of guests don't seem so great to her, because there are people around, someone has already taken off their festive shoes, someone has put on a jacket because the evening was cool. However, in the pictures of the private dance, no one is around, the couple still let smoke on the ground, dimmed the lights to create a romantic atmosphere, and lit candles on the tables. It was very beautiful visually, but it is also associated with sweet emotions and memories, because during the dance the couple discussed the best moments of the day, laughed, had the opportunity to make love undisturbed and comprehend everything that happened.

According to Iveta, 's private dance moment was a good restart point that she would recommend to all couples planning a wedding. Integrate small moments of rest where there is no running, otherwise the whole day goes by in one fell swoop and when you look back, it seems that the day flew by without noticing. If there are moments when you take a little breath, you can grasp it all and the day will be longer according to the sensations.

Author of the article: Renate Berga

Story: Iveta Jaunzeme