A person has a huge power to grow and be, only we often cling to the lifeline that is pulled by a boat, another, not ours, because we don't know how to swim or we think we can't, instead of starting to learn to swim, we would believe for yourself and in the end you could get on the boat and be the decider of your life.

Belief in this process has great power

I have been thinking for a while, what makes us strong, brave, powerful and able to achieve our goal persistently. There are several circumstances, of course, factors that we cannot influence at other times, but the more I delve into the word confidence, the more it becomes clear to me that it is probably the foundation of the foundation of everything that we do in life we create.
A confident person is a strong person.

But where and how do we learn and gain confidence?
Where do we learn about it and how do we save it?

I think the roots are definitely found in upbringing. In childhood, our parents are our World, especially mom. We very much we see, hear and feel exactly what mom is doing. What she teaches shapes us until a certain age when later we we start making decisions ourselves. And here also comes whether we have confidence planted in us or not.
And if not, how to build it?

Work and success, recognition and appreciation can increase our self-confidence. Also partner and relationships with other people make it.

I look at the plant at home. I see how it thrives and thrives when I give it attention, care, care and talk with it. It grows and feels good. But when I have neglected it, it tends to get sick, tired... Its green leaves turn yellow, it starts to sting and fades away before my eyes.

I thought that we are the same living beings as any plant on this earth. Without the sun it will not grow and without attention as well, without care, care and nurturing. We can make ourselves, just like taking care of a plant, thicker, greener, stricter or on the contrary – to destroy. We are a living being who knows little about ourselves.

And, in my opinion, the path of confidence begins when we realize that we are the most responsible for ourselves on this earth. And, if we accept it, then we understand that the life we have now is created by ourselves. And it connects with all ours choices. What we choose to do, not to do, what we choose to want or not want and especially what kind of person we choose for ourselves next door!

Confidence and Relationships:

As I already mentioned, everything starts with yourself. We have to work on ourselves and our dreams, on our character and growth. Thinking about yourself, cultivating yourself - that's work!

In the early stages of a relationship, confidence about the future is divided - for some it is a lifelong love that no one won't budge, another has doubts about whether it will succeed. At the further stage of the relationship, when we have already established one with the other, the facets of our character, faith and also what we don't tell anyone, only those closest to us, begin to be revealed. Turns out ways of doing and acting. And when jealousy, doubt, control, constant desire to be in control, etc. appear. similar forms, then these factors often lead to arguments and negative tension in relationships.

In my opinion, if this is the case, then one of the parties in the relationship could simply be unsure of himself, his life, the other, for choices, etc.

If one person is less confident in a relationship, it is difficult to grow together, because on the way to the goal, the less confident party tends to to quickly give up or drag another person down.

And this is an essential issue in a relationship, so that it grows like the mentioned green plant. When someone falls a little self-esteem, it's normal, it tends to be, but if the other person in the relationship is unsure about many things for a long time, it indicates a split in faith within the person himself.

In my opinion, in order for both to have confidence in a relationship, you have to work with it. Both compliments and criticism should be given and must do things for the growth of confidence. They can be different, but I would like to highlight a few. In my opinion, the most useful is talking with our partners about things that make us insecure, sharing feelings and experiences that affect us deep in the soul that worries us. Discovery is important in everything, including our inner demons, to begin the journey to confidence. Also, to be aware of what experience and mistakes are - to be aware, analyze and solve.

Common experience, care, trust, care and responsibility are needed so that we can nurture each other's confidence.
Otherwise, if we do not pay attention to our common growth, common goals, then we can end up like a plant that is too we water a lot or treat it sloppily. It can slowly lose its luster and power to keep growing.

Confidence is more than a quality worth its weight in gold, one of the foundations of healthy and strong relationships, as well as your growth building trump cards. And here I am not talking about an overconfident person who often takes risks without realizing it consequences, but the important thing is to think about who hurts more - people who are too confident or those who not sure?

I think everyone should think about it once. Think about when we hurt ourselves, our loved ones the most to a person and when we make him happy the most.

There is a feedback loop. If we lift up another, he will lift us up in the same way. If we do nothing, then we do not expect the other in return will do something. And if we hit - emotionally belittle, then we don't expect that the other person will be able to grow green roots to grow stronger.

I have also thought a lot about my actions towards other people in relationships, specifically my husband. When I was too busy or least sure about what I'm doing and whether what I'm doing is necessary for me, then the other one went through a lot. She confidence in the future, just like my slow-burn. Until he shared his feelings that everything that happens with me in the work environment, in my head, in my belief about who I am, his relationship with me, our cohabitation. He was my support and I opened up. I told all my fears and doubts, everything in my heart did not give me peace. And he offered to solve this together, with joint efforts.

He planted his share of confidence in me, and I began to grow again, to shine and strive for the light. And he's not the only one, either those closest to me to whom I was brave enough to open up. I will always be grateful to my husband and those people who listened to me about the work they have done for me and I will consider this experience useful in any uncertainty on the way to fall.

Where the path of uncertainty disappears, there is opportunity to grow. It takes the courage to open up and the strength not to give up. To grow means meet different experiences on your way. The main thing is not to lose confidence, then we stop wanting to experience and to do things.

Just like a vicious circle. If you're not sure about what you're doing, it's unlikely that it will you will succeed because fear and doubt will stand in your way and win.

The greatest success is when we are sure of what we are doing. Precisely because we experience, learn, do again, until we do, because conviction drives us. Confidence is just like the armor that when going into battle to fulfill a dream helps us take the hits and keep going.

The greatest joy of existence is when we are sure of ourselves, it facilitates our choice and it creates new ones.

Confidence is something we should talk about and see as one of the best human traits.
It gives both stepping stones and courage on the way to what our heart desires.
Confidence is what can lead us to new things, make us take risks, make mistakes, learn, grow, improve.
I believe that without faith, confidence will not grow either. Believing in your abilities means doing a lot for them.

The problem, in my opinion, could be if we do not believe that we are the creators and determiners of our own lives. It must be understood who we are, where we come from and what our drive is in life. In fact, we could each do so much! One person can change the world and I believe in it.

Thinking about yourself, cultivating yourself - this is work. In life, if miracles happen, it is when we believe they can happen, not when we devote all our energy to living conditions that affect only the upper layer - cold or warm

Author of the article: Ieva Florence – Vīksne