Human relations have undergone significant changes over the centuries. In the past, they were mainly based on survival and economic considerations. It was a time that saw a lot of unhappy and unfulfilled love, because often those who loved each other were prevented from being together for financial reasons. In the first place - status and possessions. Human feelings are insignificant. There was a time when life was lived together just to survive. A time when divorce was frowned upon despite the fact that the husband is an alcoholic or a brunch hunter. Property and social assumptions have determined human relationships much longer and more conspicuously than love or soul connection . But the time has come when we can finally experience relationships in their meaningful version: striving for emotional and soulful closeness, personal and mutual growth and mutual understanding and respect .

From survival to partnership

In the past, relationships were largely pragmatic – marriages were formed to ensure the economic stability of the family, to form social connections and to continue the family. Romantic love was not the primary factor, and in many places marriages were pre-arranged. In medieval Europe, marriages were often arranged within aristocratic families with the intention of strengthening political and economic ties. Women and men rarely chose their own mates because marriage was a strategic transaction rather than an expression of love. Other life decisions were also made based on rational considerations. Another example in the history of relationship building - in the 19th century, marriages were often concluded on farms to ensure the availability of labor and the survival of the farm. Also, children were created for practical reasons. There were no such questions as: Who am I? What is my mission? What do I want? This does not mean that people did not have desires or that falling in love did not happen. Of course, all this happened, but it had to be suppressed.

Along with the industrial revolution and the development of women's rights, people had more opportunities to make independent decisions about their lives. Love and mutual compatibility became more important than material considerations. Education and economic independence became more accessible to women, which finally allowed them to marry by choice rather than economic considerations and coercion.

Perhaps this history is not so sad when compared to the more recent past, where women did not have enough well-paid job opportunities to leave their abusive husbands.

Nowadays, when in the intellectually developed part of society a person has become a value, not a mechanism in the social machinery, and we begin to focus on ourselves as a personality and a sensitive being, relationships also regain their true nature. When a person is given complete freedom in choosing a partner, the decision tends to be influenced by factors on which long-term relationships are not built - for example, lust, chemistry of falling in love, passion. Therefore, you have to be quite conscious to make this choice, not based on sexual attraction - it can also be between people who do not share common values, and very often this is exactly the case. And if there are no common values, long-term relationships cannot be established. The tendency of modern conscious man is to look further - what is behind the passion. What's left when the passion ends. Who are we, the two people who will meet next.

Emotional closeness and true presence

Modern man, who is becoming more and more conscious, chooses a partner with whom to build a deep, authentic relationship based on understanding, support, shared values ​​and self-growth, and love. And it all starts with the relationship with ourselves - the most important relationship in our life, which also determines the kind of relationship we build with others. It is no longer possible to lie to yourself. So why pretend to be in a relationship? Why live only half when you can live fully? What is the function of a relationship that is not meaningful? At a time when material needs can be provided individually by each of us, the meaning of relationships lies in... relationships themselves. In interaction. In submission. Relationships make sense when they are complementary. Give If they are taken away, the reason for their existence disappears.

What is important in a relationship? The ability to communicate, to trust each other – to talk things out, not to hold grudges, to be able to share your dreams and worries, the desire to understand and support your partner, to listen and hear, to be present emotionally and physically.

And not only emotional factors have taken the podium in a completely positive sense. Again, a healthy partnership is the key to a successful relationship – both partners share emotional needs, responsibilities and decisions, provide and receive mutual support and are equally involved in daily responsibilities and family life. In modern relationships, neither partner is dominant – both work to strengthen and harmonize the relationship to create a balanced and supportive life together.

Sexuality at a new level

Due to the fact that the depth of relationships, which a conscious modern person craves, becomes more and more essential, intimate intimacy also expands horizons. Sex is not a mechanical action (and never has been in a loving relationship), but another aspect of deep intimacy in which you experience not only physical and emotional pleasure, but also feel the soul connection and experience yourself as an energetic being. Tantra explains the sexual relationship that expands beyond what the human mind can understand. Tantra in sexuality is not just about physical pleasure – it is a deep spiritual practice that unites body, mind and soul to achieve a higher state of consciousness and a deeper connection with a partner. Tantra comes from ancient India and is based on a philosophy that sees sex as a sacred exchange of energy, not just a physical act. Awareness allows you to see this "by-product" of sex - the exchange of energy - and to look at this form of physical intimacy with completely different eyes, understanding why you should look at the body as a sacred temple. Tantra emphasizes slow, deliberate intimacy where the goal is not just orgasm, but enjoyment of every moment and emotional and spiritual connection as well. Sexual pleasure is not depleted in any way - on the contrary, tantric breathing techniques help prolong the pleasure. The pleasure becomes deeper, wider, richer.

How to meet a partner with whom to build a deep relationship? You have to start with yourself. If we have peace, empathy, clarity, composure, maturity, awareness, then we recognize these values ​​in others. The conscious and mature person you meet is a reflection of you. Realizing that we are more than our body, mind and emotions creates an understanding, a space on which to build long-term close relationships. They replace condemnation with understanding. Resentment with open and respectful communication. Reprimands by hearing. Mechanical sex with eroticism and emotional intimacy. Requests with interest. Self-forgetting with self-rebirth.

A relationship in which we open up and let each other into our depths is a blessing. Sacred union. And probably made even before we were born.

Author of the article: Ieva Simanovića