Everyone knows that weddings cost a lot. That is why the number of guests at a wedding is often proportional to the wedding budget. Drawing up a guest list is often a big headache for couples, especially because it is often not possible to invite all relatives, friends, work colleagues and acquaintances. If the couple has decided on a wedding day spend only with the two of you, then it is impossible to invite even the closest family members. In such situations, the big question is how to tell the people who won't be invited to the wedding.

LĪGAVĀM offers several tips on how not to invite guests to a wedding.

Tell in person

First of all, you must understand and accept that telling someone that they will not be invited to your wedding, is an awkward situation in which none of the parties involved is likely to feel comfortable. That is why it is necessary to find the best way to not invite guests to the event.

If the people you cannot invite to the wedding for some reason are still very close to you, then should tell them personally. If they value you, they will understand and respect your choice.

If a personal face-to-face conversation with each person is not possible, then a letter can be sent or call. It is important for people to know that not receiving an invitation is in no way personal or directed towards them, but determined by your wedding concept. Such a personal approach will please people, and they will not reason to think you don't want to see them there.

Do not invite guests / work colleagues

If you work in a large work team, then another one of the big questions for guests in making the list is whether to invite work colleagues to the wedding. Although work colleagues often become close friends, however, there are couples who decide not to invite guests from the work team in order not to offend the others. In that case, you should personally tell your closest work colleagues, but you can send an e-mail to the others, indicating that no matter how close and especially you wouldn't have a work colleague either, but you have decided to celebrate the wedding only with your closest friends and family.

Neighbors will not be offended

Neighbors can often become good friends and people to spend time with time. However, this does not mean that the neighbors must also be invited to the wedding. You can tell your neighbors about your wedding plans to tell, indicating that you will celebrate saying yes only with those closest to you, and you will choose not to invite guests - neighbors.

Wedding celebration without children

Another sensitive issue is whether to invite the children of friends and relatives to the wedding. Let also sometimes couples feel uncomfortable, but it's acceptable if you don't want to see screaming and running around at your wedding children. In that case, the wedding invitation can politely state that you want your wedding guests to relax and enjoy your beautiful event, so you invite children to leave them at home in caring hands. If the number of children at the wedding is relatively small big, then it will also save the cost of the wedding budget.

What to do if you decide not to invite your parents?

Families tend to be different and although in an ideal scenario, on the wedding day next to the bride and the groom would have both parents and other family members, however, life is not always like a perfect scenario.

The situations tend to be different - parents have not been involved in their children's lives since childhood, the family atmosphere is determined by a big and so far unresolved conflict, parents are passionate about various addictions. These are just some of the reasons that can make the young couple evaluate and make a serious decision not to invite their parents to the wedding.

Whatever relationship prevails in the family, it is not always an easy choice, so be careful you need to weigh the pros and cons of this decision, as well as understand the consequences, for example, parents may be very offended and relationships the family may become even more tense.

In order not to make a decision in a rush of emotions, it is definitely necessary to discuss it with a loved one, listening to his thoughts and suggestions. If, however, you have decided that you will not invite the parents of one or the other party to the wedding, then it may happen that the parents will try to communicate and show their bitterness about your decision before the wedding. To avoid unnecessary drama before the wedding, it would probably be best to avoid this communication, but if you do decide to talk to parents, then do not allow yourself to get emotional and explain the specific reasons why you made such a decision.

Author of the article: LIENE PÄLĆA

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