The wedding of a couple after the birth of children is no longer only a story about themselves, but also about their children. It is the moment when the family becomes even more united and stronger in its essence. Elīna and Roberts Herbert, who got married last fall, are also convinced of this. Their three children - Olivers, Teodors and Zoya - were also present at the special event. In addition, they were not only present, but also went to the altar together with their mother and father as one family.

Come to the wedding ceremony together

Elīna says that the decision to choose a more unconventional approach, namely to go to the altar together, was made easily - the only thing they wanted was to be alone.

"We decided that we want to be who we are every day, because all five of us grow up in this family, we are the closest to each other, we go through challenges, hard times and good times, we support and love each other.

We wanted everyone to come to the wedding ceremony together, because we are a family. The moment when we all came together as one, the kulak of our family, meant a lot to us," recalls Elīna, noting that tears of joy could be seen in the eyes of family members and friends over such a decision.

Victory day of love

The Herbert family states that the children's presence at the wedding was necessary so that they could also see that mom and dad were fixing their relationship. "We were a family even before the wedding, and that's not the best example for children, but that was our story. No matter what happened in life, we wanted them to see how important a step marriage is, how important it is for both of us and our family. We celebrated the victory day of love on our wedding day, because after the children's marathon, staying in true love has been a lot of work," admits Elīna.

Recommendation to divide responsibilities in advance

A wedding day with children is, of course, also a big challenge, because you have to think about several practical things. Elīna and Roberts admit that they know their children well and knew what to expect.

"We knew that the biggest challenge would be that the children could start running in all directions during the ceremony and screaming, going crazy," says Elīna.

"We didn't worry about seven-year-old Oliver - he was very excited and touched, but we had thought a little more about our youngest children in advance, because they still had an unpredictable age - Zoya was one and Teodor two years old. That's why I divided the responsibilities before the wedding ceremony and discussed in advance which of the nearest guests would be responsible for each of the little ones. We had also bought ecological candies, which we put in the pockets of the responsible persons, and it definitely saved us in several moments during the wedding ceremony," recalls Elīna.

Great sense of community

Speaking of benefits, Elīna and Roberts are the first to mention the great sense of community. "That's who we are and that's how we come together - we, the family.

As parents, we have asked for forgiveness from our children for previously showing them a family model that did not meet our own standards, and we wanted them to see that we are brave enough to overcome past mistakes, bad experiences and continue our relationship on a completely different level. And I think that since the wedding, our whole family has become sweeter, stronger and more united," said Elīna.

At the wedding celebration in the evening - only the eldest son

Each couple must decide for themselves whether and how much to involve children in their wedding. Elīna and Roberts chose to be together at the wedding ceremony, but only the eldest son took part in the wedding celebration already in the evening, while the younger ones were already sleeping soundly, under the supervision of a reliable person.

All-night celebrations might not be suitable for the little ones, besides, this way the parents could enjoy special moments with each other and with their guests.