When planning a wedding , you will often encounter the feeling familiar from childhood, when you need everything and now - when entering a sweet shop, you want to grab as many and as colorful as possible, and if the neighbor Lienīte has one, then you also need one. Let it not happen that there is not. However, keeping a cool head sometimes doesn't feel like it's about much?

IDEAS

With the feeling of now or never, which has plagued me more than once during wedding planning for every bride, fighting is really difficult. A wedding IS a big, beautiful and significant event, but we tend to forget that in fact, it is only the BEGINNING, not the end. Yes, there is life after the wedding. There will also be events, balls in the future and parties, hundreds of new reasons to celebrate life and your love. You will surely have a jumble of ideas in your head, who you have to unravel. No matter what! Unfortunately, you will not be able to be an elegant bride in a classic dress with a long lace slip, both a free-thinking boho bride with hair blowing in the wind. In all seriousness, the choices you will have to make at the wedding during planning, is one of the biggest challenges you will face.

Tip. One way to deal with the chaos of ideas in your head is to choose one a trusted person (mom, girlfriend, wedding planner or groom) who will keep a cool eye on how you are doing at the end when it's time to choose. Start by collecting all the ideas that you would like to realize on your wedding day (eg positions – bouquet, style, theme, etc.), then together with your trusted assistant choose, for example, 10 of them each category, after 2 weeks weed out a few more, leaving, say, 5 (it is important that this number is already before defined and no exceptions are acceptable, no matter how difficult it may be at times), leaves 3 ideas for the decisive moment, from which will be destined to become the real one in the end. As time goes by, the ideas in your head will gradually start forming naturally way, the excess will fall away by itself and you won't have to feel the heavy burden of responsibility when making an important decision immediately.

PERFECTIONISM

Don't be a bride who proudly carries the entire wedding planning process on your shoulders just because so that the result is perfect. Think, in the end, the guests will remember your wedding as the most perfect wedding of the century? Hardly. What the guests will remember for a long time and mention at the meeting will be funny incidents on the wedding day, clever and awkward toasts, the wittiest jokes, sometimes uncontrollable emotions, the warm mood, dancing until the morning and new friends, not the perfect purple shade of your chair covers.

Try it! Trust the people closest to you, share this special time with mom, let it be yours let the best friend take over, so that the future husband decides for himself what color socks he will wear today. Maybe it won't be so crazy in the end? And if he also mixes blue socks with green, isn't that why you him love so much

GIFTS FOR GUESTS

Here it is said. Before wasting your valuable time and money, think again if it is necessary. Is it really true that without a small material possession, your guests will have nothing after the wedding day? remember? Maybe emotions – unexpected tears of emotion from a best friend during the ceremony, in the centenary apt note about the groom's unusually solemn appearance, the messing up of a guest's room and the legends about it the next morning? These are the things that your guests will remember for years to come, not how delicious the candy is in a box they brought home after the wedding☺

SWEETS

Love is sweet. However, you don't have to literally feed it to your guests. Sweets at champagne after the ceremony, sweets on the reception table at the place of celebration, cupcakes, muffins, cupcakes and all the overflowing sweets table for the rest of the confectionary debaucheries... Sweets are, of course, beautiful and for a festive occasion appropriate, however, it may not be the best solution for your hungry guests.

Try it! Instead of sweets tables, wine and cheese tables are becoming popular, served in one in a uniform style, for example, in the French or Italian taste. Fine cheeses, fresh baguettes, olives, various sauces, greens... Even original wedding cakes are made from cheese rolls of different sizes! However, if you don't want to follow the general trend, come up with something of your own – your own special table that will be in place of the sweets corner.

DECORATIONS

Florists and decorators emphasize that abundant will look much more tasteful and impressive decorated individual areas rather than various bits of decor at every turn. You should also be careful with artificial decorations would not overshadow the authentic beauty of the place (if any, of course). Think about the benefits of an existing location to use to your advantage and not to cover up.

If different activity areas are set up in the celebration area outside (photo corner, smoking room, chat room, rest corner, etc.), you must also take care of their design, as well as proper lighting in these places - so that guests feel comfortable spending time there and taking beautiful informal pictures.

OVERSATURATED PROGRAM

Remember that the wedding celebration is not a children's summer camp, where they should be every moment to take care not to commit pranks in free moments. Antics made by wedding guests, but on point. The special atmosphere of the wedding (as well as a reasonable offer of stronger drinks) will in itself lead to lively conversations, would not fake the joy of meeting again, new acquaintances would create a feeling of excitement. From an overzealous wedding the manager, who, only wanting good things, constantly harasses and pokes the guests, just so that someone doesn't stay at some point boring, people will eventually shy away. It is truly an invaluable art to notice when a guest is at the right moment the eyes begin to turn thoughtfully into the distance for too long, but let the evening take its course when the guests are already getting along just fine themselves.

Photo: MIKS SCHELS , MARCIS BALTSKARS, LINDA LAUVA

Author of the article: LIENE PÄLĆA

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