How good it is that we live nowadays, when we can choose to be happy! In a time and environment where we can choose who to be with, who to marry, who to divorce and when to marry. Society globally has a tendency to become more youthful. If a few decades ago a woman put on a headscarf after 50, turning from a woman into an aunt, today it is a moment that enters a woman's life with a new lease of life - children are often already quite large or even adults, the personality has matured, values ​​have crystallized and the feeling of oneself as a unique, individual being has strengthened. If a woman has been single at this stage, then it is the right time to fall in love!

Statistical data in Latvia show that the number of marriages in younger age groups is decreasing every year, while in older ones it is increasing. The average age of marriage in the country as a whole has also increased: women marry at the average age of 37.4, and men at the age of 39.9. The number of seniors who have registered marriage is growing. The reason for this is not only a person's desire and conscious ability to enjoy life longer and more, but also amendments to the Law "On State Pensions", which stipulates that from 2019, in the event of the death of a spouse, the spouse will receive a benefit of 50% of the deceased spouse's pension for one year. So, the law has encouraged couples who have been living together but have not officially registered their marriage to "get the papers in order" for the sake of their social security.

Anthropological studies also show that if dating takes place after the age of 50, couples often choose holiday relationships instead of cohabitation - they are partners to each other, but do not live together. Basically, they go on a date - they go to the theater and cafes, go for walks or go on a trip together, but everyone stays on their farm and does not occupy their minds with unnecessary questions about unwashed dishes that inevitably arise when living together.

Returning from practical considerations to emotional ones - mature brides look at marriage differently than when they were young. Of course, there is no one principle according to which the groom is accepted as valid, but the reasons for the choice differ. Life experience and personality maturity can be both a help and a hindrance in creating a relationship. A bride after 50 knows what she wants. Knows what suits her and what doesn't. What she wants to spend her time on and what she doesn't. It has become more difficult to let a person into your space - everyone has established their own habits, even principles. And it's also easier - you no longer have to solve the issues of building a house or raising children together, and you can indulge in romance and time together. A large part of the worries that even very loving couples drive into a relationship dead end, if they have not learned to build relationships consciously, reveal their feelings and emotions, open up in vulnerability and listen to the other without reproaches and self-invented scenarios.

After the age of 50, two grown-up, mature and life-experienced personalities have met, who, if they want it and are ready for it, can form relationships that have never been experienced in life. A relationship in which to enjoy each other's presence and allow yourself to get to know the other person's infinitely wide world.

At the same time, it is life experience that can become an obstacle in building close relationships. A mature woman is very clear about what she does not want and what does not suit her. But here you have to be careful - so that "red flags" do not start to appear where there is actually the potential for a warm, close and deeply intimate relationship.

On the other hand, if experience is used wisely and self-esteem becomes the cornerstone of healthy relationships, it is at this age that you can enjoy the most beautiful relationships and such a wonderful role as a bride.

Strengthening self-confidence before a new relationship

Regardless of age, before embarking on a new relationship adventure, you should fix your relationship with yourself. You have to explore the labyrinths of your experiences and decisions, consciously understanding how your partner's choices and relationships have been formed so far. Are you ready to enter a new relationship as a self-sufficient, self-confident being who makes important life decisions on her own and does not depend on your partner's wishes and moods? Are you ready to accept your beloved man as an individual being with his world view, feelings and dreams for the future? It is especially worth working with these issues if the previous relationship has hurt, there is a feeling of disappointment or disbelief that it can be so beautiful, respectful and full of pleasure.

At any age, it is important that several important dimensions exist simultaneously in our lives. So that the new partner does not become the center of life, on which personal happiness depends, you must already feel this feeling of happiness and fulfillment with yourself before the relationship - in your career, fulfilled and close friendships, interests, hobbies. Because the focus of falling in love can be so strong that when the partner is not present, any other meaning disappears. The stronger you are in personality, the more confidently you will be able to divide your attention into various close areas of life. And it can be cultivated. Additionally, close friendships outside of the partnership and family are truly essential. It is support, inspiration and time spent together that can play a big role in your life. And you will never feel lonely even if you are alone.

How to enjoy the bridal phase

Just like in your 20s, 30s and 40s! As you continue your daily routine, do not forget that you are currently experiencing a unique and unrepeatable stage in your life, which can and should be celebrated - you are a bride! Being a bride is a special experience. Be present in the moments of your life and pamper yourself. Arrange dates with the groom, get to know each other even more undiscovered sides. Give yourself time also alone by planning and implementing everything that brings joy, harmony and inspiration - whether it is a visit to SPA treatments that have been postponed until now, or a feminine photo session, or a restaurant tour, where you can enjoy new tastes as the wedding day approaches. Perhaps you have long dreamed of writing a book, learning the trade of a ceramicist or starting to paint? And why not as a bride? Right now you are even happier and more emotional, which means the ability to open up and let the energy flow without the layered boundaries of the mind.  

Wedding dress that highlights personality

Wedding dress - it's not just a story about the appearance of the dress. A wedding dress carries a message - your values, vision of life, strength of personality. It is not so important what the design of the wedding dress is, but how you feel in it. That's why you can't really think of a wedding dress with your mind. You have to feel it. And even if you have decided to sew a dress, take a walk around wedding salons and sample dresses - otherwise, we feel that we express our true nature and beauty in a dress that has never occurred to us or has never been tried on. Ask yourself if in the dress you are trying on, you feel your authentic essence, the essence of femininity awakening. A wedding is a ritual, not just a solemn event. How does your choice of dress change if you recognize this moment as a ritual?

Safely play with the color of the wedding dress, leaving the classic white frames! Variations of shades can suit your outfit, from butter cream yellow to soft shades of various pastel shades. The tone of the dress can be like a subtle, almost imperceptible touch, which nevertheless makes your outfit special and compliments the skin color. You can also boldly choose an outfit embellished with delicate crystal embroidery or beaded cuffs.

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Wedding planning with ease

Let's assume that you have been married once in your life. When you get married for the first time, especially when you are young, you often want to do everything perfectly. So that the wedding scenario tells the authentic love story, so that there are napkins of the right color and candlesticks of the right shape, so that the wedding day is planned and runs flawlessly like clockwork. Every nuance seems important. On the other hand, when life experience is already accumulated, various nuances lose their significance. The emphasis is on being together and sharing joy with the wedding guests. Therefore, wedding planning can also proceed peacefully and without tension, which couples often experience when getting confused about wedding concepts and sharing wedding planning experiences.

Planning a wedding is also made easier by the fact that neither you nor the groom are influenced by outside opinions - how to celebrate a wedding correctly and to the delight of everyone. You both know what your values ​​and interests are, and who are the people who will be honored to be present during your wedding ceremony. The boundaries are clear and easy to draw.

Enjoy the ability to be here and now and celebrate the main thing!

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Author of the article: Ieva Simanoviča