Marħers Major has been conducting weddings for ten years now for a simple reason - he loves participating in them from the bottom of his heart, because it is a wonderful event where people meet to celebrate love and life.

Preparation for a wedding , in which decorators, caterers and many others put their hand in, takes place over a long period of time, but on the day of the wedding the leader is the one who turns it all into an unforgettable event, creates a festive feeling in the guests and helps everything go smoothly. As Marħers describes it, each of the participants has prepared a gift with his work, which the leader ties with a ribbon and presents beautifully to the couple. All these elements come together in the celebration - decorators 's conjured design, cooks' prepared meal, music , guests and leader have arrived and their involvement combines all this and turns it into a celebration. A wedding consists of various nuances and layers of atmosphere - the leader is the one who keeps everything in balance.

During the summer wedding, we met with improviser, TV show, event and wedding manager Marħeras Majora to talk about what the evening manager really does, how the cooperation between the manager, the couple and others involved in the wedding takes place, and how to draw up a special and realistic evening program.

The wedding leader must be ready for everything

Each couple needs something different - some will find it warm and nice if the wedding is conducted by an uncle, for others it will be important to see a recognizable actor or musician at their wedding. It will be important for someone that they have a personal connection with the manager, but someone else will want the agency , which also invites its managers, to do everything. Sometimes you don't even need a leader for the whole evening - the leader can come for a separate part of the evening and organize a surprise. Of course, from a manager's perspective, weddings are either long or very long. Because even if only the evening part is to be managed, the manager's day is spent preparing for it. But in a big wedding, you may have to invite even two leaders. Couples, weddings and hosts are all different, but if you manage to capture the right combination, a miracle happens.

When asked what the role and tasks of a wedding leader are, Marħers answers that the word "leader" already includes the fact that he is in charge, because he leads everything, so it is difficult to list individual duties of a leader. The manager is responsible for each person at the wedding. Like the head of a company. Therefore, the wedding leader must be ready for everything.

If we speak more specifically, then, of course, the main task of the wedding manager is to take care of the festive atmosphere. In a way, the host is like a waiter who keeps the atmosphere in the right vibration, making sure that every guest feels good. In telling this, Marghers admits that it is actually the people themselves who make sure that they are well, and the manager makes sure that everything runs smoothly. An important function of the manager is also to keep track of time, which always flies by unnoticed at weddings. Therefore, the leader communicates with others involved, for example, asks to play a song less to follow the evening's plan.

We also talked about the fact that, although the leader is apparently a person who is in the center of attention and entertains, in reality the leader does not have to perform on stage all evening and keep the attention of the guests on himself. As Marħers admits, there is nothing more tiring than when the evening is oversaturated with activities and the guests are not given moments of respite. Therefore, the leader of the evening can be completely invisible at certain moments of the celebration - here the facet of the leader as a waiter appears. Marħer says that in the course of the evening, he tends to visit the guests' tables and invite them to communicate with each other, organically giving impetus to the conversation.

It often seems that a leader is only needed for big weddings. However, the manager will also perfectly complement a small wedding - Marħers has also managed a wedding with 12 guests. Weddings are not only different in scale, but also in style, so you need to find a leader who will conduct the wedding in the intended manner, for example, formally, with humor or cordially and relaxed. Marger's approach to conducting weddings comes from improvisational theater, in which he has worked for a long time. All the activities he offers are original, created, tested and developed together with the members of the improvisational theater. Sometimes at weddings, he collaborates with his improvisational theater colleagues, playing an improvisational show for two, not afraid to involve the wedding guests in the performance as well.

Everything starts with an open conversation

Every cooperation with a couple starts with a conversation, during which Marħer tries to understand the direction together with the couple - whether the wedding will have a party atmosphere, whether it will be sweet and nice, or very solemn and classic. Marger is not afraid to experiment and break out of the stereotypes of what a wedding should be, and also encourages couples to do everything they want in their wedding.

What couples should know when going to a meeting with the leader of the intended wedding - it is important to talk openly with the leader and tell them what you definitely do not want to see and experience at the wedding. The more and the more specific you are about both what you want and what you don't want, the better. It is also important to reveal to the manager whether you like surprises. Discussing these and other nuances in advance will reduce the chance of something going wrong during the evening. Of course, Margher also asks if the couple has been to any weddings he has presided over, and if they have, he listens to criticism about what they liked more and what they didn't like. However, if the couple has contacted him, then obviously there has already been some positive momentum.

When preparing for the wedding, Margërs uses memory notebooks that he asks his couples to fill out. Both the future wife and the husband have to answer various questions in it, which allows Marħer to get to know the couple better. It should be understood that if the host of the evening is not someone close and familiar to you, then any information provided by the couple can help the host to make the evening more personal. By the way, he also uses a memory book type approach when he has to conduct a ceremony. He creates the ceremony speech based on the couple's life together, telling it from both points of view. More and more often, people choose to create holidays in their own way and in an unconventional way, therefore, by agreeing in time, also conducting the ceremony plays an absolutely nice role in the overall event of the day, where together with the guests, an improvised ceremony is experienced in Marħer's previously written personal story. Observations are that it is more real, more alive, more juicy and funny, nicer and more special than a formal ceremony in the Registry Office. Another nuance that Marger includes in the ceremony - not only the couple, but also those present must make a promise (otherwise, why did they come?).

Evening program and wedding activities

A good wedding leader is the key to an exciting and naturally flowing evening, because the leader will be able to evaluate how many and what activities to include in the celebration program. The leader will be able to direct the attention of the guests and influence the mood with his management style, because the wedding consists of different parts - there are serious parts where humor is not needed, there are parts where you need to have a good laugh, but you can indulge in sentimental moods in the partying part. As for the evening's programs and plans, Margërs says that all of this is of course necessary, but in reality it is risky to stick strictly to the plan, because a lot can happen at a wedding, and you have to be ready to react and adapt. Another aspect - alcohol also affects the evening. Used in moderation, it helps guests relax and feel more relaxed. However, the moment alcohol begins to preside over the wedding, the real leader may no longer be able to stand by and the leader must realize that his job is done.

The host of the evening interacts not only with the guests, but also with others involved in the wedding. Traditionally, ushers play a big role in weddings, they take part in both organizing and leading them. When asked how the roles of ushers and wedding leaders are divided, Marħers answers that there are often different situations. It is, of course, a great honor to be invited to be an usher at a wedding, but when ushers actually take on the responsibility of planning and officiating a wedding, it is a big job and responsibility. Speaking in front of an audience is quite an anxiety for many, which cannot be avoided if you have decided to officiate a wedding. in such a case, the wedding leader will be your savior and helper. On the other hand, there are also very active and attractive conductors who have already developed a rich plan and, wanting good, still turn to the driver, but in such cases, perhaps the driver is not necessary at all, because the conductors themselves are willing to work and it brings them joy.

When the couple has agreed with the presenters and the leader of the evening, what will be the division of roles, the evening program is drawn up. In Marger's experience, the skeleton of a wedding plan is usually unchanged, he listens to wishes, offers his ideas and activities. He is skeptical of activities found somewhere that he is asked to conduct. This is because he believes that the manager must be able to answer why the specific activity is being carried out. Marger confidently says that he can answer why for everything he does in the weddings he officiates.

One of his entertainments is the Late Night Show starring the couple. the format of the show is always adjusted, because each couple has their own comfort zone and attitude towards being in the center of attention - some are happy to take the lead role, others prefer to be observers. A wedding is usually not complete without an attractive and fun quiz, which allows the guests to get to know the couple.

As Marħers admits, guests must be given room to express themselves during the evening, because the host cannot know everything about the guests and he does not need to know everything. Rather, the leader should give impetus and create conditions where guests can communicate and learn more about each other. In short, the leader must create a place for special situations to arise.

Marger's motto : I will support you until the wedding. On the wedding day. And if necessary, also after the wedding.

Advice for couples : This is your day, your evening. Plan early and share the feelings and energy of the holiday with people you trust, so that the wedding day will be the most beautiful day that you and your guests will remember! Create the holiday that you are, or even better!

Wish : Find someone you're on the same page with. To do this, cast leaders if necessary!

Author of the article: Renate Berga

Story: Marħers Major

Photo: Marħers Majors